Cut out of contact with uncle by recent adopted child

NotSpaghetti

I think I'd call the care home and see if you can speak to him.
I'm sure he'd love to speak to you.
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I think I'd call the care home and see if you can speak to him.
I'm sure he'd love to speak to you.
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GoodAfternoonTea

Let it go. Send a letter or card to the hospital/care unit where he is from you personally and phrase it with love and kindness. Nothing is to be gained at this late stage in life. Do you want to have the last word or know that you have brought a smile to his face in his last years? At the end of the day, the boy is his son.

He’s not a boy. He’s a man of 60. But yes you are probably right.

Sago

The “real estate agent” should not have given you details under GDPR.

The agent spoke to him to get permission.

Let it go. Send a letter or card to the hospital/care unit where he is from you personally and phrase it with love and kindness. Nothing is to be gained at this late stage in life. Do you want to have the last word or know that you have brought a smile to his face in his last years? At the end of the day, the boy is his son.

I didn’t mean anything about preference I meant as in next of kin

BlueBelle

I m not sure what legal action you would want or be able to take to be honest !
Perhaps the son and family didn’t know about you or your details to get in touch However much it hurts the son is closer in relationship than you are and would be his next of kin
It’s sad for you that you didn’t know about your uncle but I m not sure you can blame anyone

I don’t care if he has a closer relationship. I don’t care if my uncle prefers him to me. I don’t care if he inherits every possession my uncle has. I am talking about common courtesy. A decent and moral way to behave. The son had contact details for the family. It was a deliberate attempt to prevent me knowing what had happened. If I had not found him myself, I don’t believe we would ever have been told, even after he died.

butterandjam

If he's compos mentis, presumably he chose which family members to inform.

Good news, Uncle's Will can't be challenged on grounds of mental incapacity . The intended beneficiaries will inherit.

"So now I am seething and thinking about legal action for alienation of affection."

Under which law, in which country's jurisdiction?

Perhaps you missed my original post. I don’t care about any will, house, or money. I care that I was not informed that he went into hospital and then got moved to a care home without my or his family’s knowledge. I then had to search to find out where he had gone. I don’t think this is a proper way to behave. But perhaps my expectations of people’s behaviour is higher than yours.

I m not sure what legal action you would want or be able to take to be honest !
Perhaps the son and family didn’t know about you or your details to get in touch However much it hurts the son is closer in relationship than you are and would be his next of kin
It’s sad for you that you didn’t know about your uncle but I m not sure you can blame anyone

The “real estate agent” should not have given you details under GDPR.

Snowbelle

Sometimes people are coerced and groomed but if they have “capacity” there’s nothing legally you can do. I agree -contact him at the care home and speak to him directly so he knows you care and if there’s anything he needs etc. try not to be angry as he has enough to deal with it seems (if the information you have been given is correct). Also you might get the full (and true) story from the care home/your Uncle. Best of luck and I’m sorry to hear this scenario for you and for your Uncle. Something seems wrong I agree.

I will try and do this. Thanks.

Sarnia

^I don't care about the house or any money^ you say but by the way things have been kept under the radar I think they do. The prospect of money has a nasty effect on some people.
Could you speak to someone in charge in the care home and perhaps your Uncle would like to hear your voice, too.
Some legal advice wouldn't go amiss in the circumstances.

Yes I think you are right.

I now realise alienation only applies to marriages.

Sometimes people are coerced and groomed but if they have “capacity” there’s nothing legally you can do. I agree -contact him at the care home and speak to him directly so he knows you care and if there’s anything he needs etc. try not to be angry as he has enough to deal with it seems (if the information you have been given is correct). Also you might get the full (and true) story from the care home/your Uncle. Best of luck and I’m sorry to hear this scenario for you and for your Uncle. Something seems wrong I agree.

I don't care about the house or any money you say but by the way things have been kept under the radar I think they do. The prospect of money has a nasty effect on some people.
Could you speak to someone in charge in the care home and perhaps your Uncle would like to hear your voice, too.
Some legal advice wouldn't go amiss in the circumstances.

If he's compos mentis, presumably he chose which family members to inform.

Good news, Uncle's Will can't be challenged on grounds of mental incapacity . The intended beneficiaries will inherit.

"So now I am seething and thinking about legal action for alienation of affection."

Under which law, in which country's jurisdiction?