Hook-up turned serious, but he will not be exclusive and pulled back

Reported.

Run! He’s taking you for a fool.

Sadly I think he is keeping you "in reserve" in case nothing more exciting comes along.

As you have feelings for him I think this is why he has been able to do it.
Now is the time to say "goodbye" - if he is genuinely missing home he will probably leave eventually anyway.

You are the only person that can solve this. I don't believe he will ever be truly yours. As others have said. Put this first big relationship behind you. Remember the good times, yes, but please don't wait for any more!

He's keeping his options open - he wants to keep having sex with you but wants to be free to have sex with other women when he gets the opportunity.

The lesson to be learnt - IF you want a serious, exclusive relationship with anyone, don't offer yourself as a "friends with benefits" woman.

How long is your piece of string, because where I'm sitting it seems too long and he's dangling you on it.

It appears to me that he's unwilling to string up with you alone.
He's stringing you along and fiddling with your emotions. Don't let him. You can find a different, better and stronger string for your bow.

Cut your own string and release yourself. Then Shorten and tighten it 🌻

He likes you for some aspects of yourself, but not enough to limit himself to you only. Back off to protect yourself.

MT62

I don’t think any of grans I use to hook ups 😂 I’d rather eat some fruit & nut, & read a good book thanks very much

If I wasn't married I would entirely agree with you MT62...lol

Run

You're a very young woman. Why are you asking us about dating!

I haven't been on a date for over 50 years. I wouldn't recognize one if I saw one.

I have invited a male friend to a concert tomorrow night but it's not a date just company now I'm a widow.

Enjoy your life, is my advice, don't look for love, let it find you.

I think that it's great to ask we older ladies!
We know a thing or two .

WALK AWAY NOW.

Let him play the field.
He's only going to cause you grief .
Find someone who treasures and respects you.

He’s using you, don’t answer his messages or calls. Get on with your life, you are a young woman you have the world in front of you, fill it with interesting things to do.

Walk away. You are worth more whatever your age.

Im sure it's a a real story, I had probably 6 dates from online contacts. I messagedthem all next day thanking them for a pleasant date, 4 there was no chemistry and we agreed on that, 2 I had further dates, neither lasted.

The only way to decide if a new prospective partner is what you want is to meet them, the online chats and phone calls just reduces the number. To be honest a dance hall is a much better way of finding a partner, you can chat in a relaxed place without any stress or risk, you are much more likely to find a serious prospect.

Are you and your story for real !? If so wake up and get rid of him. For goodness sake!!!!

I don’t think any of grans I use to hook ups 😂 I’d rather eat some fruit & nut, & read a good book thanks very much

You are most def being played.
Move on.

Stick to Mumsnet.

You are being played, any relationship is going nowhere, how much of what he's told you is actually true?

Not really a Gransnet problem, principally because we older women have more sense.

This post is also on Mumsnet. You may find that the replies on there are more useful to you. It's not very clear what the question is, or how you want us to help you.