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Sad and feel so let down by friend

(55 Posts)
crazyH Tue 31-Mar-26 19:10:52

You obviously enjoy her company, but money and friendship don’t mix well. If she repays you that’s good but do not continue to lend her any money or go on outings, unless she pays for the tickets etc upfront. I have a neighbour like that. She hates parting with her money 😂

Susiewong65 Tue 31-Mar-26 19:05:45

Blimey she has well and truly used you over many years and not very thoughtfully or considerately either.
Ask her for the money again and be firm about it so she knows you aren’t a pushover.
Once she’s payed you back, if indeed she ever does, then cut all contact with her.
She really is not the sort of friend you need.
Some people are quite unbelievable!

denbylover Tue 31-Mar-26 19:04:44

Cabbies on to it…..she’s not your friend, and I doubt she sees repaying you as a high priority. That shouldn’t affect a repeat request for repayment though. File this friendship away, with regret, I understand, but again from what you say she is not a real friend.

Cabbie21 Tue 31-Mar-26 18:55:03

Ask her again for the money - to be repaid immediately. Then try to forget her. She is not your friend.

BelleDeJour Tue 31-Mar-26 17:44:10

Hi everyone

I have a friend of almost 20 years. We were very close when our children were young. Friend would often ask me to pick her daughter up from school. I didn't mind as my children enjoyed having a friend to play with but this happened a bit too often; personally I wouldn't want my child at someone else's house that often because I enjoyed my children's company! I began to resent it, a bit especially when she left her daughter with me until 11pm one night!

In the past, there have been occasion's when my friend has made comments that I found hurtful. I usually chose to ignore. But the one time I did retaliate, she mocked me and told me that her husband also thought I was being ridiculous. When my ex-partner left me, I was very upset and she told me her husband would never leave her because she's too good a housewife (they have since split up).

Anyway. To the present. I don't see her as much. I have stopped initiating making arrangements and contact, really because a few years ago she began to cancel often (most of the time), or forget that we had made a plan. Always wants me to go to her house (which is usually full of people) never to mine or meet in a cafe.

When we do meet, we have fun because we have such similar interests and she will say that she wants to see me more often. She has now owed me £100 for a few months for an event we attended together. I have asked once for it back and given my bank info.. I know what the answer is but I suppose what I want to know is how to deal with the sadness that I feel.

Thanks for reading. x