Husband I think is looking for divorce after 50 years.

Wow, what a bully . I’d get some legal advice about where you stand if you divorced him . Do you not have a private or work pension ?

Esmay

I'm so sorry that you're going through thus .
Your husband is a bit old for a mid life crisis .I wonder if he hasn't got the beginnings of dementia.
When men are discontented with themselves they can be vicious and cruel .
Don't say anything-just watch what he's up to .
And be aware of your options should you
divorce .

His memory is shocking now even with the phone calendar he has to keep checking.

Just this morning he totally denied a conversation we'd had yesterday.

You are entitled to half of everything.
Sounds like he could be heading towards early onset dementia?

Having both Hips replaced shouldn't hold you back?
Make a note of these outburst and odd behaviour for your future reference.
I Totally agree, get your "Ducks in a row" , and perhaps speak to a Solicitor sooner than later.
Best of luck.

He sure doesn’t sound irresistible weight or no weight 😁
Get your bags packed.

My advice would be to secretly get documents of the accumulated wealth...be as devious has he his. If he does decided to divorce you this will be evidence of the assets you both hold.

Barbadosbelle

GrandmaBatty

....... and transfer as much £money as you can into a personal and private account..

I can't move money we're both on apps so he'd see it. I think reading on Mumsnet solicitors advice is not to

Esmay

I'm so sorry that you're going through thus .
Your husband is a bit old for a mid life crisis .I wonder if he hasn't got the beginnings of dementia.
When men are discontented with themselves they can be vicious and cruel .
Don't say anything-just watch what he's up to .
And be aware of your options should you
divorce .

Do I have to divorce on his say so though. I don't want one. I'm much younger. He was impotent at 50 I was expected to put up with that which grieved me terribly but I believed in our vows. When I suffered terribly before and after hip surgeries he was so angry.

I should say there was some physical violence for the first twenty years until I said I'd call the police next time. He'd have had to explain to his pals why he'd lost his shooting licence if I had. No more pheasant shoots for him

GrandmaBatty

....... and transfer as much £money as you can into a personal and private account..

If he’s having mood swings , I’d be concerned about the onset of dementia. Especially if it’s a new thing . Plus the WLI do sometimes have side effects . My DH felt nauseous and bloated for the first month or so , which definitely made him more grumpy.
Also regarding the WLJ , he could be embarrassed to mention it to you , due to vanity . I’ve heard of several people both male and female secretly using the jabs .
However if he’s wrinkly already , losing a lot of weight will make him more wrinkly, unless he’s using weights or resistance training.
Could you talk to him about his moods ? That would be my suggestion.

Grandmabatty

Why would you stay with him? As mumsnet would say, "Get your ducks in a row."
Quietly organise your own leaving.

I don't want to leave this small bungalow though when he could buy a more expensive house for himself if we did split. He also has a large yacht, a company worth a couple of million. I just want peace now to be honest.

I have the state pension, he's screamed at me to get attendance allowance etc. for hip ops. Honestly I don't qualify.

He wants the state to care for me after decades of us building a company and other properties together.

I'm so sorry that you're going through thus .
Your husband is a bit old for a mid life crisis .I wonder if he hasn't got the beginnings of dementia.
When men are discontented with themselves they can be vicious and cruel .
Don't say anything-just watch what he's up to .
And be aware of your options should you
divorce .

What has your marriage been like the rest of the time? [no need to answer that if you dont want to].

You say you are worried. So presumably you dont want him to leave you?

Why would you stay with him? As mumsnet would say, "Get your ducks in a row."
Quietly organise your own leaving.