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Should I just go home?

(29 Posts)
Aveline Wed 22-Jul-26 06:43:15

It's not the 11 year old too involved the 16 year old - it's her mum!
Messy. Go home.

eazybee Wed 22-Jul-26 06:21:02

An 11 year old with a sixteen year old boyfriend (over whom his parents have no control)?
Hmmm.
You are right to be concerned but I have no practical advice, other than perhaps stay if you are able until the children are back at school.

nanna8 Wed 22-Jul-26 02:21:49

To be honest I would be going home and keeping in close touch. Sometimes things improve when you do not actually live with someone. If you have real concerns about the 11 year old perhaps you should report it but that would be an absolute last resort.

Grammy57 Wed 22-Jul-26 02:17:57

2 years ago, I dropped everything to help by daughter (M) whose husband had suddenly left. Two months ago we tragically lost my 15 yr old granddaughter (T) The 11 yr old has handled the loss of her sister in her own way. T's boyfriend of a few months has become closer and closer to M. He is only 16 but his parents have no control. He seems to have become a substitute T for M. He sleeps over, she texts him when he is not here he's left a family holiday to come back to M. I ventured, diplomatically that this was not a healthy relationship, now I am being virtually ignored. We have been through so much and I feel I just want to go home, except I feel I can't leave the 11 yr old. I feel I have not only lost T but M too. Any Help? As you can see it's keeping me up nights