I am not native of this country but have lived here a long time and I have always tried to keep in touch with my family abroad .
I have especially been close to my younger sister who still lives there , she and her husband and girls have been here and we have been there and we have always phoned each other at least once a week .
Recently , however , I have noticed that my sister is not so keen on me going to visit her . She blames it on her husband who doesn’t really like to have people staying with him , which is true to an extent as I never felt his welcome was that great , and also on the fact that her dog is ageing and things are not easy .
I understand that as I have had ageing dogs myself .
But where do we go from here ? It is a long way to go so I can’t just go for a weekend ( I was proposing to visit for a week ) and if we don’t see each other any more , surely the relationship will descend into indifference ?
What’s more , I feel hurt because I do enjoy going back to my country of origin .
So , what should I do ?
Should I not go because after all, who wants to go somewhere if they don’t feel welcome , which is what I feel , or should I go and put on a happy face ( she hasn’t exactly said I can’t go but has come up with a number of reasons’ why it would be difficult )
I really don’t know what to do , I am hurt and bewildered
I don’t know where things have gone wrong
Can anybody give me some pearls of wisdom please ?
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