Difficult relationship with my daughter ( ongoing )

What was the rift about? Why does your daughter dislike your sister?

My sister is a bit volatile and a bit of a Dr Jekyll and mr Hyde
She can be great but when she loses it she can be vile
She lost her temper in front of my daughter once too many times I think and I think that s what it’s about although I can’t be sure there’s not something deeper but I can’t be sure , honestly

It isn't up to your daughter to police who you may or may not talk to, though.
It isn't her wedding; she is a guest, and should behave as one.

I know that doesn't help you to negotiate how to handle this, but what option do you have, if you are going to spend your life bowing to her demands?

It's not something I would do, regardless of wanting to see your grandchildren.

I would go, do what you want, (just like your daughter does) and let her get over herself.

Thanks , I think you are right , I will follow your advice
I just hope she doesn’t ‘ punish’ me by cutting me off from the kids
It’s a risk I have to take

Great post MissA. I hope you take note of it Notjustaprettyface, you can't spend your life walking on egg shells.

I hope you have a wonderful day of celebrations on Saturday at your son's wedding.

I'm sure that your daughter knows full where her bread is buttered prettyface, and any tantrums will be forgotten when she needs chilcare/money or any of the other things I'm guessing you provide.

Thank you smileless
Yes I intend to follow the advice given by miss A
I just need to be strong

Again Miss A you are absolutely right but then she will have other tantrums later on and so we start again …

Very difficult for you, prettyface, but it's a common theme on this site.
Good luck with the wedding, I hope you can relax and enjoy it.

Your relationship with your sisters is nothing to do with your daughter! If she dislikes her aunt that's too bad but no reason for you to break a sisterly bond. If she dares to cause a scene at your son's wedding then she will be seen for who she is - time she grew up. Enjoy the wedding !

Thank you shelflife , your advice really helps as well
I think she is out of control and needs to grow up as well

Be circumspect around your sisters(s) & also your daughter. Don’t spend too much time with any of them. That way nobody can point a favouritism finger at you. Mingle, keep antenna up and enjoy your day!

Thank you nonogran