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Not coping too well

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bigmama1960 Sat 02-May-26 19:58:26

I have been married for 20 years. My husband has had some health issues that have now been resolved. He has very low libido and over the years, many of them, I have decided not to push it as I feel more like his mother than wife. When watching tv he taps his hand on the sofa, pulls weird faces and fidgets all the time. I hate it. I have asked him to stop but he said he can't. He isnt interested in trying g to. It annoys me so much and whilst having a sexless marriage where he likes to correct me I feel sad and don't know how to deal with my situation. I work from home and have no savings.

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Cossy Sat 02-May-26 20:10:23

Reading this has made me so sad, for both of you.

Life cannot be easy for either of you.

I can only suggest you, on your own, get out more, socialise, do a night class, join a choir.

As for your husband, I’d understand it more if you said you were more like friends, or sister and brother, but why do you feel like his mother?

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Jaxjacky Sat 02-May-26 20:50:47

You posted four years ago in March 2022 along similar lines and were given lots of advice, have you tried anything suggested?
His habits sound like they may be anxiety, I wonder how he sees the situation? Have you recently discussed it with him.

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