Gransnet forums

Relationships

Lien falsifié avec ma fille

(7 Posts)
MMARY Mon 15-Jun-26 16:22:56

Bonjour, je suis nouvelle sur ce site. Je ne sais plus où me diriger. Je suis suivie par une psychologue, je suis bien entourée par ma famille et mes amis, mais mais mon mal être grandit.
Contexte : ma fille de 21 ans est partie de la maison à ses 18 ans. Elle ne veut pas dire oû elle vit ni ce qu'elle vit. Nous l'avons en ligne régulièrement mais nous ne devons poser aucune question. C'est un lien, certes, mais selon ses règles à elle. J'en souffre. Récemment je viens d'apprendre à ses dépens, qu'elle est maman. Je ne peux pas lui dire que je sais pour ne pas la braquer mais quelle souffrance !!! Ce lien mère fille, falsifié, et maintenant grand mère petite fille, absent. Je sombre petit à petit. Je me permets d'écrire ici.
Je vous remercie pour votre aide.

BlueBelle Mon 15-Jun-26 16:33:44

Oh dear I am so sorry to hear how sad you are
My French is not very good so I hope I haven’t got it wrong and you are sad because you appear estranged from your daughter who is a mother herself.

I m going to see if I can find a translation

Ok here we go
*Hello, I'm new to this site. I don't know where to go anymore. I am followed by a psychologist, I am well surrounded by my family and friends, but my malaise grows.
Context: my 21-year-old daughter left home at the age of 18. She doesn't want to say where she lives or what she lives. We have it online regularly but we don't have to ask any questions. It's a link, of course, but according to her rules. I suffer from it. Recently I just learned at her expense, that she is a mother. I can't tell her that I know not to rob her but what a pain!!! This mother daughter link, falsified, and now grandmother little girl, absent. I'm sinking little by little. I allow myself to write here.
Thank you for your help.

I am sure people on here will want to help but the language may make it a bit difficult 💐

BlueBelle Mon 15-Jun-26 16:34:28

I m sure there are far better French speakers than me who can help

BoggledMind Mon 15-Jun-26 16:39:38

Hi Bluebelle
From Google Translate. I have added a link so members can copy and paste a translation into French what they post.

Hello, I'm new to this site. I don't know where to turn anymore. I'm seeing a psychologist, and I have a strong support system with my family and friends, but my distress is growing. Context: My 21-year-old daughter left home when she was 18. She won't say where she lives or what she's going through. We talk to her online regularly, but we're not allowed to ask any questions. It's a connection, certainly, but on her own terms. I'm suffering because of it. I recently learned, to her detriment, that she's a mother. I can't tell her I know for fear of upsetting her, but what pain! This mother-daughter bond, broken, and now grandmother-granddaughter bond, is gone. I'm slowly sinking. I'm writing here. Thank you for your help.

translate.google.co.uk/?sl=auto&tl=en&op=translate

MMARY Mon 15-Jun-26 16:40:27

Merci BlueBelle
Effectivement c'est une sorte de rupture de lien, mais difficile à définir, et de faire le deuil de notre relation parce qu'elle nous contacte régulièrement. Elle nous parle de rien de spécial mais elle nous contacte et nous ment. C'est difficile à décrire

Wyllow3 Mon 15-Jun-26 16:51:47

I suggest you use a translation tool, MMARY, as many of the posters here do not have a way to understand you if they do not have the knowledge or the right sort of device to translate your words.

Je vous suggère d'utiliser un outil de traduction, MMARY, car beaucoup de personnes qui publient ici n'ont aucun moyen de vous comprendre si elles n'ont pas les connaissances ou le type d'appareil adéquat pour traduire vos propos.

NotSpaghetti Mon 15-Jun-26 17:14:56

I know how much comfort people find in the Gransnet forums in the UK, so I looked into what the equivalent would be in France. These two are respected and specifically deal with the heavy emotions of family rifts.

EGPE - Allo Grands-Parents Helpline
egpe.org/

Search "Relations Familiales" on this website as there ard lots of threads:
www.psychologies.com/

Neither are quite like Gransnet but may be helpful.
flowers