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DH wanting to go on holiday all the time and then angry because I can’t do as much as he wants to do.

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Stansgran Thu 09-Jul-26 12:50:34

DH wants to be anywhere else than where he is. When we’ve booked a holiday he then wants to travel somewhere from there. I’ve booked us on a cruise and at the ports we are visiting he then wants to travel from that port to somewhere else. I’ve often regretted not being able to sit and absorb atmosphere or even enjoy a beautiful hotel. When we were young we often went camping or to horrible hotels because they were cheap and I was glad to get out of them . He refuses to go on his own and has now be getting angry because I am being cautious as I’ve just had a hip done. I just don’t know how to talk to him any more. Please don’t come on and say that you haven’t had a holiday and I should be grateful,it’s not helpful.

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Cossy Thu 09-Jul-26 12:54:07

Why not go on a cruise, you don’t have to go on the excursions, he can go, cruises are friendly, he’ll find like minded people.

Make sure you have a balcony suite and sit on it and admire the different views!

Don’t stress or upset yourself and wish you a speedy recovery thanks

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Oreo Thu 09-Jul-26 12:54:46

I think you have the misfortune to be married to a man who isn’t thinking of you and only of himself.I really think you have to be firm with him about what you feel able to do or even want to do.You have booked a cruise to please his need to travel and now he has to cease to be selfish and give a little.

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Jaxjacky Thu 09-Jul-26 13:24:15

Who books the holidays Stansgran?

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Cossy Thu 09-Jul-26 13:26:19

Oreo

I think you have the misfortune to be married to a man who isn’t thinking of you and only of himself.I really think you have to be firm with him about what you feel able to do or even want to do.You have booked a cruise to please his need to travel and now he has to cease to be selfish and give a little.

I completely agree.

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M0nica Thu 09-Jul-26 13:32:21

You need to be equally selfish. You have booked the cruise, tell him that he is absolutely free to go on as many excursions as he wants. You are staying on the ship

You do not want to go on them so you do not go. He has a choice go on the excursions alone or stay on the boat. Do not permit any recriminations. Shut them down and walk out of the room.

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V3ra Thu 09-Jul-26 13:43:32

A cruise is the perfect holiday for people with different preferences!
Your husband can go on an excursion in a different port every day with other like-minded people, you can rest your hip onboard.
You can eat together and go to the entertainment together if you want to.

One suggestion: sit him down and book his trips before you sail, some on our last cruise were sold out before we left the UK.

Don't let him bully you ☹️

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