Let's talk dating apps with Lumen

My thoughts on dating apps are, if it's for you, go for it, embrace the technology, don't be flattered by a lethario, if you want to take it to the next stage, meet in a public place, DON'T SEND MONEY. As you can see, I am quite sceptical about dating sites. I am yet to see a success story.

I have been divorced once and widowed for many years, I like my own company and not ready to share my life with another - yet. Never say never I may 'have a dabble' in the future - but for now I will leave this form of friendship/relationship to others.

Have you got any experience of using dating apps?

Last year I 'dabbled' with Ourtime.

If so, were they good or bad experiences?

Mainly good - I enjoyed the company and look forward to receiving and responding to messages.

Have you found good connections or engaged in quality conversations on dating apps?

Yes, I have been lucky to have lovely conversations with like minded men, however many were not local to me, so could not progress.

Do you find dating apps easy or difficult to use?

At first, quite difficult - the whole process felt complicated and I gave up several times, then one day persevered and set up my account.

And, if you have never used a dating app, what do you think of them? Have you considered it but been put off?

I used a dating app to have a bit of fun (I was unhappily married at the time)

Yes, they are easy to use, I found setting up a profile was fine,
After a few on-line chats, with gentlemen, I found that my OH was not so bad after all, after advice I was given by a fellow 'Matcher'

They are a good way of meeting a potential date, but make sure you are doing it for the right reasons.

Have you got any experience of using dating apps?

I've used Match and Zoosk and still have 'live' profiles on there.

If so, were they good or bad experiences?

Both, I have met very lovely men, but after having a bite to eat and a chat - you just know you do not want to see them again, I had one bad experience when the gentleman was asking me too many personal questions and made me feel very uncomfortable.

Have you found good connections or engaged in quality conversations on dating apps?

Yes I have chatted on line with several gentlemen, and really looked forward to the 'too and fro' of the conversation.

Do you find dating apps easy or difficult to use?

Easy

And, if you have never used a dating app, what do you think of them? Have you considered it but been put off?

I was put off before I registered, but decided to give it a go - I am not looking to re-marry, just a lovely relationship with a like minded person.

I've dabbled with Ourtime as it seemed to be the one most applicable to me, but I found the whole process difficult, and was too embarrassed to ask for help - registration - what to put - how to describe me - what I was looking for - then became suspicious of the men on there - you hear so many stories of women being taken for a ride by people who are not who they proport to be, I'd much rather meet 'the one' at a club I attend - as they are more likely to be genuine as a better match than one on a 'dating app'

I have used a dating app (the one beginning with M) after my divorce 18 months ago, I found the process exciting and relatively easy, but I am IT savvy, so uploading a 'decent' photo was fine, and the tick boxes and how to complete my registration was fine. However when it came to arranging a meeting I was too nervous to go ahead with meeting a 'stranger' - on the crowded place - as suggested.

Have in the past been on a couple of dating sites - one was Match.com that I gave up on because the charges seemed to go up and up and besides, I might have been a "fave" of some, but never the ones I was interested in!
The other were local ones - I had contacts from several men and seemed to be getting on well, to the point of arranging a meeting with one guy who seemed really nice . A few days before I posted a new photo of myself that was a couple of months old (prev one was a couple of years old). The day before we were due to meet, I got a message from the guy to say that sorry, I was a lovely lady, but not his type! I think he was looking more for someone tall, blonde and slim to make the ex wife jealous - I'm 5'5, and lets say curvy!
Another man that lived in my nearest town I had been "chatting" with for about 9 months. Out of the blue, he told me that he "didn't want any kind of relationship with me, now or in the future , but we had fun, didn't we?"
After that I gave up and decided I was better off on my own !

fkexible I totally agree not for me thanks for the same reasons

No thanx, too many old geezers hiding behind pics taken ten years ago, no doubt some women do the same. Most only looking for sex and tbh most sound quite bitter not to mention all the unwanted pics of bits of their anatomy I'd rather not see before I've even met them.

I don't have a smart phone so can't use apps but do use online dating sites. The majority of men I may like and talk to seem to live nowhere near me so that puts a damper on it straight away. Sometimes I really like their profile but then I see they can't spell for toffee, don't like animals or they are a Liberal or Labour supporter so I know we will be totally unsuitable, so I haven't actually gone on any dates yet with people I've connected to online.

Pre-internet days, I did have a few dates with men who advertised in my local newspaper and all of them were quite nice but I just knew there was no real immediate connection so didn't pursue them. I'm very fussy. I have a lot of men friends, who are just friends, but haven't been lucky enough to meet anyone since my divorce whom I have wanted to get romantically acquainted with- yet!

I would be put off because it would be easy to hide behind a fake identity. I'd prefer to meet people socially as in the "olden days".

Not interested. Post - divorce I explored the possibilities and found only needy older men looking for a housekeeper.
Far happier being independent!

I've not had cause to use a dating app, but I met my husband on a blind date 40 years ago and I don't see that as being much different, excepting that it was his friend who acted as matchmaker, instead of him posting his own details on an app - back then, we didn't even speak on the telephone before that first date! I knew very little about him.

Come to think of it, that's a plan, people who put their profile on a dating app should have reviews from their friends ... that way you have context.

course I meant apps not ads

I haven't been brave enough to try any over fifties dating ads. Tried in the past things like plentyoffish. Guardian.
Like to believe I'm not entirely 'past it'...
look forward to hearing others experiences...and eventually live up to my user name...
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