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Let's talk dating apps with Lumen

(242 Posts)
LucyBGransnet (GNHQ) Thu 17-Oct-19 12:08:11

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In recent years, the number of people using dating apps to find that special someone has rapidly increased. Dating at any age can be difficult, but dating apps can make the process a little bit easier. Whether you’ve used a dating app before or not, Lumen wants to hear from you.

Here’s what Lumen has to say: “Dating apps are in full swing these days, with an estimated 59 million people using them worldwide, and that’s only as of 2017. Now, the number will only be higher and it's easy to see why. As our lives become busier and more hectic, it can be tricky to find time to set aside to go on dates, or to even find people to go on dates with. Dating apps come in to help us there, by allowing us to get chatting to people more easily. It’s not just a millennial’s game anymore.

More and more people over 50 are turning to dating apps to find someone to spend their later years with. You may have many friends and maybe even a family of your own, but that doesn’t mean you should be content with being single if you don’t want to be. If you’re ready to get back into dating, whether you’re in your fifties or beyond, then it might be time to try a dating app like Lumen.”

Have you got any experience of using dating apps? If so, were they good or bad experiences? Have you found good connections or engaged in quality conversations on dating apps?

Do you find dating apps easy or difficult to use? And, if you have never used a dating app, what do you think of them? Have you considered it but been put off?

Share your thoughts about dating apps on the thread below and you will be entered into a prize draw where one GNer will win a £300 voucher of their choice (from a list).

Thanks and good luck!
GNHQ

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beckyinman Wed 20-Nov-19 21:42:33

I'm very lazy on them, match with a few people but am too lazy to meet anyone

feeona123 Wed 20-Nov-19 21:18:55

I haven’t used one personally but they can be a good way to meet people. You have to be very careful and realise not everyone is who they say they are online.

debskeay Wed 20-Nov-19 20:42:31

NOT FOR ME IM AFRAID. RECKON FULL OF WRONG UNS

gillssurvey1 Wed 20-Nov-19 20:37:42

Never used a dating app. Don't trust them. Prefer to meet people with similar interests in groups via Meet Up, and take things from there. Purpose to enjoy my hobby, extra benefit a potential friendship built over time.

Dapootz Wed 20-Nov-19 20:21:47

Not tried any apps yet. Have tried online dating previously with mixed results. ?

ha2el Wed 20-Nov-19 18:43:21

I think that you have to do a lot of research and read feedback to ensure that you are using the dating app that suits what you are looking for.

Jess9887 Wed 20-Nov-19 16:39:21

I think that in this day and age they can be a good idea. I know people who have met their partner on dating apps. I think that people need to make sure they are safe, don't meet at a bar where alcohol is involved, meet somewhere public and let someone know where they are and who they are with.

Woignarue123 Wed 20-Nov-19 16:25:52

I've never tried a dating app. I don't think I would entirely trust the idea of getting to know someone on line rather than in person. That said never say never.......

michael888 Wed 20-Nov-19 15:29:32

I think that they can be helpful for some people - people who don't have an extensive social network or who are busy working.

lorrainej162 Wed 20-Nov-19 13:33:42

I'm happily married, but don't like the idea of this, too easy for people to create a false identity.

margie64 Wed 20-Nov-19 12:53:12

BEWARE, after being on certain internet site, for about 4 months, had two people message me different times for several weeks, business men, then suddenly they go abroad and need MONEY. Well they didn't get it off me! Met three people, separately, all they wanted was hot food cooked by me, and blind date not really interested at all in me, only themselves.
I would say DONT be lead on by these internet daters - not too many people are genuine!

katieskatie82 Wed 20-Nov-19 11:52:35

i've never used a dating app and never would. People can pretend to be anyone onlie. I'd prefer to meet someone through friends or friends of friends

imustbemadme Wed 20-Nov-19 10:31:17

I haven't been brave enough to use a dating app and not sure I would. I hear horror stories about how rude people are and just don't think I'd want to set myself up for failure.

I really think that it's best to get to know someone first before you start dating them.

blahblahblah1 Wed 20-Nov-19 10:25:14

I've never tried it and I hope I never need to!

giddyypixie Wed 20-Nov-19 09:58:35

I have never used dating apps, although I know a few people who have met their partners on dating apps and are now happily married!

Helsbells68 Wed 20-Nov-19 08:43:34

I have no interest in dating again but accept they are a useful tool for those that do want to find someone to share their life with

katastrophy13 Wed 20-Nov-19 08:10:06

They're easy to use but I haven't found anyone on them who really sets my world on fire! I'm staying away for the time being as I am happily single.

yoeydavis Wed 20-Nov-19 03:31:59

I know a lot have people like to use dating apps and they have successfully paired thousands of couples, but it's not for me. I couldn't think of anything worse than being judged, or judging someone, from a photo & a short description, and then meeting an, almost, complete stranger for a coffee, dinner as, basically an interview for a relationship.

MrRichTea Tue 19-Nov-19 23:25:06

Maybe i'm old school, but i prefer face to face meeting, apps are still great.

avery64 Tue 19-Nov-19 22:38:44

We have just celebrated our Golden Wedding this summer after meeting on a blind date arranged by a friend for me to get free driving lessons as I was a penniless newly qualified teacher. Although I knew nothing about him like the people on dating sites I did trust my friend's judgement so did not go into it totally blind. After reading all the negatives in the media about dating apps I know I would never have the nerve to use them!

jessiecat Tue 19-Nov-19 22:36:46

I would definitely not use them I would be too scared. I was widowed at 36 years and divorced at 50 years so I think I will just stay in the house now,

LeeR1985 Tue 19-Nov-19 22:18:32

Dating apps are not necessarily a bad thing, but a lot of the people who use them are time wasters. I had 2 different people trying to catfish me at one point and then plenty of others who I had big conversations with and then out of nowhere they just stopped speaking. No reason why either. I found more luck offline

Cailin7 Tue 19-Nov-19 21:49:33

no never used an app, not got any need to. but my cousin tried one and had an awful experience

freefan Tue 19-Nov-19 21:34:52

Why not, it can't be any worse than the old adverts people used to put in newspapers haha.
With the internet and social media the world seems a lot smaller than it was when I was growing up so I guess there's a lot more opportunities now for people of every age to meet lots of new people.

xsophiefx Tue 19-Nov-19 21:29:48

I think they're fabulous! A lot of my family have met their partners using dating apps and are now happily married with children!