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Gransnetters share the legacy they'd like to leave when they're gone with Cancer Research UK

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LucyBGransnet (GNHQ) Mon 20-Jan-20 10:31:36

This sponsored discussion is now closed. Thank you to everyone who shared their thoughts on this thread.

As we get older, we often think about what our legacy will be; what memories, relationships or objects we leave behind to reflect how we’d like to be remembered. Making a Will is a way to communicate those wishes and the things that are important to someone are often reflected by the things they include. Cancer Research UK would love to hear what matters to you when you think about your legacy.

Here’s what Cancer Research UK has to say: “We know that when writing a Will, your friends and family should always come first. Once they’re taken care of, if you have even just a small gift leftover to leave for Cancer Research UK, this will still make a huge difference. We know from meeting our wonderful supporters that people have left us a gift in their Will because they are passionate about helping to beat cancer and want to continue when they are gone.”

What have you thought about leaving behind? Have you detailed this in a Will? Would you consider leaving a gift to charity in your Will? Would Cancer Research UK be a consideration? How would you like people to remember you when you’re gone?

All who share their thoughts and experiences on the thread below will be entered into a prize draw where 1 lucky GNer will win a £300 voucher for a store of their choice (from a list).

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GNHQ

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atombomb Mon 27-Jan-20 19:23:45

does it sound daft--id like --to invent something .Something that still proves uesful once im gone

heatherjw Mon 27-Jan-20 17:03:59

My husband and I always review our will each Easter. It is a habit we got into after our marriage (a second marriage for both of us) and the needs of our children regularly changed as they got older. All the children are now adult, and we have chosen to pass some assets on to them before we die or need to pay care costs, that way we get to see them use and benefit from the money and we hopefully avoid inheritance tax. I have seen real family disagreements with wills and in two situations the family disregarded the deceased wishes and drew up a Deed of Family Rearrangement, to distribute funds in a differnt way. I therefore try and support my chosen charities while I am alive rather than hope that my wishes be fully carried out after my death.

Charleygirl5 Mon 27-Jan-20 16:41:32

I am horrified to read the number of people who have not made a will.

I have, including making provision for my cat if I die before she does!

Any money I possess, mainly selling my house, will be eaten up by care home fees but I have mentioned several charities in my will.

Jabba Mon 27-Jan-20 13:17:58

I think care will eat up anything I have. I do all my charitable giving now. For my non-monetary legacy I would love to be remembered with fondness as a kind person

Hubbers Mon 27-Jan-20 11:48:22

I have made a will though am still trying to decide which charities I would like to leave money to, assuming there's any left! Obviously family will come first and I will leave modest amounts of cash for my great-nephews and nieces, to be invested until they 'come of age' (to do with as they please or help towards Univerity tuition fees.) A cancer charity would certainly be among my bequests, but also certain animal welfare and environmental charities. As for my 'legacy' I'm not sure... to be remembered as someone who loved animals, who was kind, who tried hard (though may not always have succeeded) and whose heart was definitely in the right place.

fullarton121 Mon 27-Jan-20 09:27:55

I will be leaving money to cancer research for them to research and hopefully beat the horrible illness.

feeona123 Sun 26-Jan-20 22:58:46

I haven’t left anything to charity in my will as of yet. If I knew my kids would be financially stable then I could change this.

jeanshepherd2000 Sun 26-Jan-20 22:53:26

I've not made my will yet. I know I should but it's difficult when my circumstances keep changing. As it is the money will go to my family and they support the same charities as I do.

Char123 Sun 26-Jan-20 22:51:27

I ought to start thinking about a will. I would like to leave my children as much as possible.

ScodieHo Sun 26-Jan-20 22:31:21

I will be leaving everything to the Dogs Trust. I think that is a better use of the money than to buy luxuries for people who are already well off. And the company of dogs has been one of life's greatest pleasures. If by legacy we mean how we are remembered, then I don't care how, or even if I am remembered. Life is for living. When you are gone you are gone,

Jacquilk Sun 26-Jan-20 18:21:25

We, as a family make regular contributions of both time and money to several charities. My sister in law works in blood cancer research, an area which is making strides but is underfunded. I would be likely to donate there.

Maggiemaybe Sun 26-Jan-20 17:27:30

We haven't included any donations to charity in our wills. Whatever is left will go to our three children in equal shares - as others have said, there is no way of knowing how much or how little this will be, and we want them to have something worth having, if at all possible.

We support several charities by direct debit now and will leave it to our children's discretion as to which they support when we're gone.

Albangirl14 Sun 26-Jan-20 16:15:25

My family know I am a keen supporter of Marys Meals and that I would prefer donations to be given to that charity instead of flowers. Otherwise I will let the children choose which charities to support as after care bills and so on you don.t know how much the children will recieve.

skyedog Sun 26-Jan-20 13:30:04

We have no charity bequests in our will. We do give to charities throughout the year, mainly through 'Just Giving' to support charities our friends are completing events for. Also, we give to particular charities which have touched our lives and the lives of family and friends. These change through time so I wouldn't want to commit to one charity in my will.

avril10 Sun 26-Jan-20 13:29:23

I want my legacy to be about family values.
We don't need to live in each others pockets to care and protect each other.

wendycl Sun 26-Jan-20 12:17:17

Everything is split between children and step-children and Will done a while ago. I didn't consider including for a charity, but might do so if we renew the Wills at some point.

amber22 Sun 26-Jan-20 10:48:22

I've left all my money to charity. 5 named charities, money, mainly the value of my house, split equally. This is because I have no dependants and otherwise the government would get the money, or so I believe.
BUT while I was planning this I read that Cancer Rersearch shops had leaflets about making wills so I thought that would be useful, and went to my local CR shop. The 2 members of staff had never heard of it, insisted there couldn't possibly be such a thing, and started laughing as if I'd made some sort of joke. This was about 10 years ago, I've never been in that shop since, either to donate goods or to buy. And needless to say, CR was NOT included in my will, so missed out on an approx £100k legacy (house current value about £500k). Please train your charity shop staff to treat customers with respect. My neighbour said she'd had rudeness in that shop too, and won't go in again.

leanfun Sat 25-Jan-20 22:03:02

My mother died of cancer and I would like to leave a donation to cancer research.

Anj123 Sat 25-Jan-20 21:41:26

I would like to be remembered as someone who was kind, helpful and for my sense of humour!!

sunshine57 Sat 25-Jan-20 21:22:39

I shall be leaving a portion of my estate to Cancer Research UK.
The research into the cancers which afflict many of us is for me of the highest importance.
In my case, I have had breast cancer twice which has resulted in a double mastectomy.
I am at the moment fit and well but I am aware that the cancer could resurface in a different part of my body at any time.It is therefore important for me that the research goes on to try to find the answers to why this disease is so prevalent and what are the causes.
My best wishes to all who are in a similar position to myself and please keep up with your mammogram appointments as these were what detected my cancers at an early stage.

DS64till Sat 25-Jan-20 19:07:44

Sadly I won’t be leaving anyone anything although I can’t think of a better cause to leave it to. I had cancer myself and it’s affected the whole of my life and means I can’t work .

libra10 Sat 25-Jan-20 18:02:07

We already have a will, but it's years old and needs updating.

Our legacy will be left to each other, then our children.

Cancer charities are so important, along with other health charities, and I would like to include a small donation when we make our next wills. However, am slightly reluctant due to hearing about some charities being aggressive when legacies left to them.

We already donate throughout the year, and will consider carefully when making our next wills.

Dannydog1 Sat 25-Jan-20 17:34:51

I have a current will leaving everything to my two children - but am about to update it leaving a percentage also to my two grandchildren. A difficult decision as this will reduce the amount going to my child that doesn’t have children.
I have decided not to name a charity or amount in my will as things change, charities Chang their focus or even cease. My children are well aware of the charities I support and will make a donation when the time comes.

50socks Sat 25-Jan-20 16:42:40

i have not left a gift in my will , but all my fabric, sewing machines, threads are to be sold in aid of charity, about £2000 to a local homeless charity and Marie Curie

littleowl Sat 25-Jan-20 16:28:31

I have no children and will leave everything to charity.

My main concern is that my husband’s first wife does not somehow through his children get a penny out of me.

I used to work for a charity and I know how much they rely upon inheritance donations. You cannot plan for them or put them in your budget because they may to my not appear.