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Gransnetters share the legacy they'd like to leave when they're gone with Cancer Research UK

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LucyBGransnet (GNHQ) Mon 20-Jan-20 10:31:36

This sponsored discussion is now closed. Thank you to everyone who shared their thoughts on this thread.

As we get older, we often think about what our legacy will be; what memories, relationships or objects we leave behind to reflect how we’d like to be remembered. Making a Will is a way to communicate those wishes and the things that are important to someone are often reflected by the things they include. Cancer Research UK would love to hear what matters to you when you think about your legacy.

Here’s what Cancer Research UK has to say: “We know that when writing a Will, your friends and family should always come first. Once they’re taken care of, if you have even just a small gift leftover to leave for Cancer Research UK, this will still make a huge difference. We know from meeting our wonderful supporters that people have left us a gift in their Will because they are passionate about helping to beat cancer and want to continue when they are gone.”

What have you thought about leaving behind? Have you detailed this in a Will? Would you consider leaving a gift to charity in your Will? Would Cancer Research UK be a consideration? How would you like people to remember you when you’re gone?

All who share their thoughts and experiences on the thread below will be entered into a prize draw where 1 lucky GNer will win a £300 voucher for a store of their choice (from a list).

Thanks and good luck,
GNHQ

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AuntDahlia Tue 21-Jan-20 22:39:24

I don't know whether I'll be leaving any worldly goods behind, but I like to think that I've touched the lives of the people I've taught and those who've read my books and articles. I think we'd all like to feel we've left the world a little bit better for our having been here, and my proudest moment was when a little girl thanked me 'for making my day happy'. That'll do for me.

Sarag250187 Tue 21-Jan-20 22:25:42

I don’t have a will and have no estate or money as such to leave behind. My most precious items I will leave behind are my diaries and hope that my children and grandchildren will read them and remember me and all my memories.

Pumpkin2 Tue 21-Jan-20 22:07:25

I've left everything to my husband and then it will go to our children. That is if we don't have to sell the house first to pay nursing home fees.

quizqueen Tue 21-Jan-20 22:06:10

My adult daughters will inherit everything I own. If I had a lottery win, I would certainly give a lot to various charities I like, but all my assets are for my family as their living conditions are not ideal.

freefan Tue 21-Jan-20 21:58:55

I would love to leave money behind to help my children have an easier future as well as some to charity but being youngish and disabled already neither are going to be possible so I do what I can now to help everyone.

sheebasima Tue 21-Jan-20 21:53:47

I would like my legacy to be a person with values and moral's who was spiritual, strong, kind, compassionate, caring, loving, loved life and was a good mother.

kpdchudleigh Tue 21-Jan-20 21:39:02

I'd like to think I leave a legacy of love and kindness in the ongoing relationships of my children. Having put kindness in action with a monthly donation to Cancer Research for over twenty years I hope my family continue to support worthy causes in whatever ways they can.

Humph Tue 21-Jan-20 21:38:47

Humorous to the very end

emmmaaa26 Tue 21-Jan-20 20:53:35

I don't think most people will leave a lasting legacy and as long as your family and friends remember you as a kind and decent person then that's all that matters.

beckyinman Tue 21-Jan-20 20:46:57

Split between the whole family and a little donation to my favourite charities

Hetty58 Tue 21-Jan-20 20:27:45

I've already passed on most of my inheritance to my children. They need it now, not when I die. I regularly give to charity anyway so see no need to leave more - although I believe there are tax benefits in doing so.

cluckyhen0 Tue 21-Jan-20 20:18:22

We don't have very much to leave. I would like to think that my legacy will be the goodness that I've instilled in my children

pinkjj27 Tue 21-Jan-20 20:13:45

My will is written I wrote when my husband wrote his when he was dying of cancer. He left money to cancer research and Macmillan. I have no idea why he did so, as when he was dying only five years ago we had no support at all from any big charity no matter how much we tried. We were always told he was terminal so they couldn’t support us. He had a rare cancer and his doctor told us it was NOT trendy enough for cancer research to offer trial drugs and there would never be any research into it as it was so rare. I felt then and still do that no one cares. I cared for my husband for 3 years with no support or help and he was treated with no dignity at all so much for all the research into it. The only support we got was a little given by Wessex Cancer trust. I have changed my will so I will only be donating to The Wessex trust.

Annak789 Tue 21-Jan-20 20:11:03

I Think we all should write a will regardless of how much we have
I’m definitely going to leave some money to a charity

gd Tue 21-Jan-20 19:21:40

I hoping to spend everything and leave no legacy.

Ikea1234 Tue 21-Jan-20 19:19:01

We have written a will, and believe we have taken care of every eventuality (if you aren't legally fluent, you have to take the advice you are given and hope it is the best) Children and grandchildren are accounted for, and we have even taken care of our tortoise (!) We haven't considered leaving money to charity, but may consider it in the future perhaps.

abigailflo Tue 21-Jan-20 18:14:04

I have a will and my children will be beneficiaries; having worked in a solicitors office I know how important it is to leave a Will

Damdee Tue 21-Jan-20 18:05:12

I'd like my children and grandchildren to remember me fondly, as someone who was kind and that they enjoyed spending time with.

I made a Will years ago and then it became invalid due to divorce. I know I need to make another one and think about it but the potential cost puts me off. Charities offer to make you a Will for 'free' but I would be embarrassed if I didn't leave a legacy to the charity making the Will and so would probably prefer to make one without a charity's help.

Anything I leave would be split equally between my two daughters.

Minnibix Tue 21-Jan-20 17:14:59

I am leaving everything to my son although I am thinking of donating some to a charity

giddyypixie Tue 21-Jan-20 17:05:04

In my will, I have left everything to my son. I haven't updated it in about 10 years and really should do as a lot has changed! I haven't set aside any for charity, as I feel I donate quite a lot now.

kinseygirl Tue 21-Jan-20 16:59:57

I give to Charity now so will be leaving any money to my two boys.
I would also hope that my legacy to my boys would be that I always encouraged them to live life to the fullest, and to be a good, kind person.

sezz35sezz35 Tue 21-Jan-20 16:59:40

I support charities now via one off cash donations, buying from charity shops, giving to charity shops or hosting/attending coffee mornings etc. I would like to be remembered as kind and fun. I have no wealth to leave to charity.

Pittcity Tue 21-Jan-20 16:51:43

We would like to live long enough to spend our children's inheritance.
We give to charity in both money and time now.
As others have said we don't know what the future will bring so we hope our offspring will use anything they may inherit wisely.

live7 Tue 21-Jan-20 16:01:02

We have recently updated our wills, after about 15 years. As before we are leaving about 1/3 to charity and have specified 10 or 12 charities for it to be split between - ones that we regularly give to now. Our children have the rest between them and know we are leaving a share to charity.

xsophiefx Tue 21-Jan-20 15:36:09

I really hope my family remember me as a kind and caring person. I try my best to always be positive and kind and would like people to recognize this.