I agree with you wholeheartedly Petebut. My late father was killed over Holland a month before I was born, and over the past three years I have been in touch with a Dutch archivist who has been wonderful in helping to put together the story of this and another aircraft lost in this particular area. The thing that moves me most though is the way these graves are tended and cared for by the local population which is nothing short of amazing. The local school children are all included in this to this day, and some of them are assigned to a certain grave for a given period of time which is their particular responsibility, then another group take over, and so on. Only this week I had an email from the corporation of this town, telling me of a service they hold each year, and the flowers they put on these graves with a special message of gratitude. Isn't that quite wonderful and very very humbling. I can't help but think, that if it was Dutch airmen lying in their graves in an English Graveyard, would we afford them the same respect and care? Sadly I think probably not, but maybe I'm being too cynical!!!
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Are the ceremonies we hold to commemorate our war dead proper and appropriate.? Should we not do more to recognise their sacrifice? In years to come memories will fade and I think we should have more active and participative ways to show our respect - such as - cleaning and putting flowers around war memorials as citizens , not leaving it to the council !- and not just once a year.
We should teach children as part of the curriculum as we become more ethnically diverse of the historical events and their impact. The Armed Forces should visit schools and review what happened and why and all schools should arrange trips to war sites to understand events and appreciate adversity and loss.
What do you think ?
How sad for your Uncle. He was so young. We need to hear these stories of WW1. I know more about the 2nd world war as my mother was a FANY in Africa where I was born. My Father was always away fighting and we came back to England on a convoy ship. Ours was so small we lost the rest of the fleet! We arrived in Liverpool & had no idea whether my grandmother was still alive or where she was. We made it to West Wittering, got off the bus & asked where mrs Rowe lived.
By chance it was opposite the bus stop. I did not see my Father until I was 4 years old. He had a tickly moustache & was like a stranger to me. Later he went off again to fight in other wars including Korea.
Jeremy Paxman: WWI memories Q&A
Share the WWI memories passed down through your family with Jeremy Paxman - journalist, broadcaster and most recently author of Great Britain's Great War. Whether you have family legends of relatives who went to war, like Jeremy, or burning questions on University Challenge, share them with us below.
Jeremy's great uncle Charlie in uniform
There is a photo on the wall. It was taken, most probably, in the spring of 1915, and shows eight uniformed men in the jaunty confidence of youth, bedrolls slung over their shoulders. They stand, arms around each other's shoulders, caps askew, one with a cigarette in his mouth, another with a pipe. They smile cheerily.
The bright spring sunshine leaves deep shadows on their foreheads. In the middle, arms folded, a young man with a heavy moustache leans on a road sign: "DANGEROUS! KEEP OFF THE TAR". This is my great uncle Charlie. He has a Red Cross badge on each shoulder and grins broadly.
In his entire military career Uncle Charlie won no medals for bravery, never advanced beyond the most junior rank in the army and almost certainly neither killed nor wounded a single German. He had enlisted in the Royal Army Medical Corps and his job was to save lives, not to take them. The 1911 census records Charles Edmund Dickson as a twenty-year-old living in Shipley, working as a "weaving overlooker" in one of west Yorkshire's numerous textile factories.
Uncle Charlie was my mother's father's younger brother, dead well before she was born. Yet as children we were all familiar with him seventy or more years later - Uncle Charlie was a present absence.
Uncle Charlie looks a slightly unconvincing soldier, cutting none of the elegant dash of glamorous young officers like Rupert Brooke. He fills the uniform, for sure. In fact, he looks as if, with a bit of time, he could more than fill it.
On 7 August 1915 this cheery young Yorkshireman, with his affable, cheery face, was killed in Turkey. His detachment of the Royal Army Medical Corps had been despatched to Gallipoli as part of an ill-conceived attack on the "soft underbelly" of the enemy, its purpose being to relieve the stagnation of trench warfare in France and offer a decisive breakthrough.
Uncle Charlie was my mother's father's younger brother, dead well before she was born. Yet as children we were all familiar with him seventy or more years later - Uncle Charlie was a present absence. My mother made the pilgrimage to seek out Uncle Charlie's name among the thousands etched into the wall of the Helles memorial. Someone helped her find it, and it turned out to be so high above her head that when she posed for a photograph she could only point it out with the aid of a branch cut from a nearby tree.
Family legend had it that Charlie had faked his age when he signed up and that he was cut down by machine gun fire as he waded ashore on his eighteenth birthday. This was plainly untrue - his twenty-fourth birthday had occurred almost six months before he was killed. But this imagined version of his death seems somehow to express a greater truth than the mere facts. Can there be a family in Britain which does not have some similar ancestral story?
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