Mindfulness - a Q&A with Michael Chaskalson

I do agree with you Grandma H that we are all so much busier than our parents. My mother was certainly busy with housework but she also gardened and knitted and baked and made clothes and my memory of her is of her far less stressed than anyone these days.
The modern world with its internet and instant communication has certainly changed things - some good, some not so good.
What I've learned is that setting some regular time aside, some daily tai chi or a 20 minute session of mindfulness/meditation somehow clears some space so that the rest of the day is easier to deal with.
I certainly think its a powerful technique but I worry that, in many cases, it is just encouraging us to think we can use it to go on doing more and more which rather misses the point that perhaps we need to think about simplifying our lives, appreciating the little things and actually slowing down!

I practise Yoga ( when I can get there! says it all really) & although I can relax quickly & easily do find my mind wanders to what I have to do for the rest of the day.
I used to go to an evening class ( for about 20 years)which was better but evenings too busy now & no class really local.
I'm not depressed but as stressed as most busy women are these days.
Would Mindfulness be useful for me?- I have mediatation CDs- is it very similar?
It occurs to me that our Mums were probably busier than we are- ours is often through choice- theirs was necessity as no labour saving devices whereas we often make our own stress by trying to do too much (guilty!)
We are the older version of the 'have it all' generation- I don't know a woman in her 60s who is not rushing around trying to fit it all in & I know a LOT of women in their 60s.

I was introduced to mindfulness by a fabulous lecturer at Aberdeen University. We can all do it but I think it's something we have forgotten. I find I now read with the radio or television on rather than just read. Right now I am listening to Rip of Britain and sending this post!

HI - I have downloaded the 'Headspace' App on my smart phone and am learning mindfullness/meditation by logging on once a day for a 10 minute session x 10. Free. You can subscribe for more sessions and it is not expensive. I have done so and am halfway through the second set of 10 x 15 minutes. I am finding it relaxing and helpful.

I would like to know if it is easier for men than for women to achieve mindfulness ? As women always have a multitude of tasks to be completed in any one day whereas men already tend to focus on one thing at a time.

jamsidedown, I think that finding the mind wandering or the body aching is all part of mindfulness. Great that you noticed, that's it! It's best to start with small steps and to just try 10 minutes at a time and work up from there.
I've been meditating for many years which is a form of mindfulness. I learnt through doing tai chi and also through listening to a teacher called Gil Fronsdal at the Insight Meditation Centre in California - there are podcasts you can download. Some of them are concerned with Buddhism but many of them are simply instructions about becoming mindful.
Although the modern interest in mindfulness is secular and concentrates on the techniques rather than any underlying philosophy, I think the key things you learn either way are patience and compassion for yourself and self awareness of how your mind works.
If you keep at it, you learn to notice thoughts, be they about aches and pains, what you're going to cook for dinner or your family crisis, etc but to let these thoughts go, you don't have to listen to them so you don't get bogged down in them - hey presto - peace!!

How can I use Mindfull techniques to stop the windmills of my thoughts keeping me awake? I just can't stop them!

Is it just a matter of learning to concentrate and stop our minds from wandering off, or is there more to it than that? I practise it on a small daily basis (when I remember) as a means of making sure I switch things off, lock the door at night, remember to put the rubbish out, etc.
Simply concentrating stops me from having to go back and check six times.

Nanabelle I have been to yoga - the trouble was I was too busy thinking about my aching joints at the end of the session!

jamsidedown - try a yoga class. There is always a time of relaxation at the end and this will help you to clear your mind for mindfulness. Try next time you drive your car to concentrate only on the driving - no radio, no chatting, just think about the driving. We should all be doing that really!
I understood mindfulness to be about focussing on the particular thing one was doing - if sitting in the garden, focus on the sounds around you, the sights you see, the smells you smell. Fill your brain with what is around you and then other annoying stuff shouldn't find a way in!
Trouble with us women is that we multi task nearly all the time.

... and I've spotted a "till" where I should have written "until" <runs away from pedant police>

Well said Grannyknot. I have stopped myself from saying any more!

Hi Michael. I often ponder about this "mindfulness" thing. The young people at the office where I worked till recently would be all over it, as they say, whilst frenetically running on their particular "life treadmill" whilst simultaneously facebooking every article they could find on the subject of being mindful.

"Don't talk to me about mindfulness" I would say to them. "Go and bake some bread, complete a puzzle, work out a difficult knitting pattern, tackle a recipe with a list of ingredients as long as your arm and make sure you measure them all out carefully. You'll find that during the time you concentrated fully on getting that right, you probably achieved mindfulness". They'd laugh at me of course. And I know it's about more than the above. But when I think of my gran for example, she never knew about mindfulness, and I ponder, how did she achieve her serenity?

I'm not knocking it by the way, I just wonder what did we do before we had mindfulness.

I have tried mindfulness, via cd's ( or rather mp3's) but I find after a while my mind wanders and my body starts itching or aching and I have to start all over again. It is very frustrating. I know you are not supposed to judge yourself or get upset about this, but it is very difficult! Any tips?

I am interested in the concept of Mindfulness: from what is written above, I am inferring you can learn to do it as 'self help', without a need for a consultant etc. Is this right? And how long per day is it normally practised?