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Sex and relationships webchat with Trudy Hannington

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LucyGransnet (GNHQ) Thu 30-Oct-14 15:50:10

Trudy Hannington is a Psychosexual Therapist and is the Chair of The College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT). Highly qualified in this field, Trudy has NHS contracts with Doncaster and Bassetlaw PCTs and also sees patients on a private basis.

Trudy will be joining Gransnet for the first time for a 'late night' webchat answering questions on all aspects of sex and relationships.

It may be that you have questions on your relationship as you both get older and it evolves. Perhaps you have worries about sexual difficulties experienced by yourself or your partner, or maybe you would like to ask about the changes that menopause brings about and how to address those in the context of a healthy sex life.

There may even be questions you have about dating again following divorce or the loss of your partner.

Whether your question relates to your own body or desires or your partner's, or if you're concerned about the way society's attitudes to sex may be changing, Trudy is highly experienced in this field.

And, for the first time in Gransnet's history we will be inviting you (should you wish) to request a new username so that you can be confident in complete anonymity in this sensitive area. To request a change in username just email us at [email protected].

Please post your questions here and make a date in your diary for this important topic for 12 November at 6pm.

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 03-Nov-14 19:31:34

Yes! Corrie!

#safeground

CariGransnet (GNHQ) Mon 03-Nov-14 19:30:28

Changing that bit of the subject entirely...

Please don't forget that this isn't just about sex (although some very interesting questions among the suppositions grin) It's about relationships too - so do feel free to add other questions too.

And to answer the various queries:

No 6pm is not technically late night. But now it gets dark so early it does feel like it. And in the everyone-deserts-GNHQ-before-then scheme of things it feels very late indeed. But we appreciate that for most folk it is more early-evening-ish

And name changing not obligatory in the slightest - simply an option for anyone who has a personal question (about sex OR relationships or indeed both) that they would prefer to ask anonymously.

(And yes usernames are technically anonymous anyway but obviously lots of people have been to meet ups and the like and hmmm, this could go on all night an Corrie is about to start so it will have to do)

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 03-Nov-14 18:45:57

(I'm not!)

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 03-Nov-14 18:45:29

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jinglbellsfrocks Mon 03-Nov-14 18:45:17

>>whisper<< i think you mean telephone sex

-i bloody hope you do--

Galen Mon 03-Nov-14 15:17:22

Reckon she's into oral sex

petallus Mon 03-Nov-14 07:43:19

'Some of the best orgasms can happen in your head.'

Are you sure you aren't having dizzy spells Jingle grin

Coolgran65 Mon 03-Nov-14 00:44:58

I'm definitely keen on a well groomed moustache..... Just as well cos I've never seen my husband's naked top lip...ever.
He is very particular about personal hygiene and grooming and it made me wonder how one (me/a partner) would cope if the OH is not particular enough.

Many years ago I ended a relationship for this reason. Tried subtle hints and then straight talking but he couldn't see any problem.

Galen Sun 02-Nov-14 22:40:26

hmmmoon

Ana Sun 02-Nov-14 22:38:25

No! Not into beardies, either...wink

jinglbellsfrocks Sun 02-Nov-14 22:37:40

Sigh. moon

jinglbellsfrocks Sun 02-Nov-14 22:37:06

Well, effin' think of someone else then. Father Christmas if you like!

Ana Sun 02-Nov-14 22:36:29

Horlicks! grin

jinglbellsfrocks Sun 02-Nov-14 22:35:59

Is what Madam?! hmm

Ana Sun 02-Nov-14 22:35:51

Oh no, not BC! I can't help thinking that his mother is Wanda Whatsit, and anyway I don't fancy him...

jinglbellsfrocks Sun 02-Nov-14 22:34:55

Ooh yes! Bedtime. smile

Ana Sun 02-Nov-14 22:34:36

Is it? confused

jinglbellsfrocks Sun 02-Nov-14 22:34:16

Well, you need to get a handsome young fellow in mind. Benedict Cumberbatch? And then you snuggle under the duvet. And you start thinking.... wink smile

Good way to get off to sleep.

Failing that, think of nice things to eat. Like treacle tart.

Charleygirl Sun 02-Nov-14 22:32:16

Jingl it is well past your bedtime!

jinglbellsfrocks Sun 02-Nov-14 22:30:50

I know you did gillybob. A very hard to answer one. wine

gillybob Sun 02-Nov-14 22:17:48

Well I did ask a serious question. confused

Galen Sun 02-Nov-14 21:49:18

Hey Jing I'm not 70 unti Dec 3!
But what can I do in the few remaining weeks?

jinglbellsfrocks Sun 02-Nov-14 21:37:07

I haven't had a fantasy for a few years now. sad

Everything stops at 70. hmm

Galen Sun 02-Nov-14 21:05:49

Unfortunately, it takes two to tango, and when you're widowed, disabled, and housebound, it's difficult to find alternatives.

Liz46 Sun 02-Nov-14 20:57:04

I am reminded of a holiday we had in India. We met a couple who saved us sunbeds next to them every morning but then they slept for most of the day. We had a friendly evening over a few drinks with them and some other couples and it turned out that all the men were on viagra purchased from the local pharmacy. My OH gave me a look which said 'don't even think about it!' Apparently there were different strengths and we had a very amusing evening all knowing we would never see each other again after the holiday so it didn't really matter what we said.