Over the years I have seen how family weddings can cause a lot of heart-ache. It may be unintentional, thoughtless or deliberately unkind.
My own experience has had remarks made, or not made, that have upset me but I have had to grow a thick skin and ignore them. That does not mean that I did not feel hurt, I did, but I decided the best thing was to ignore them, put them aside and pretend they were never said.
I treated all three of my sons weddings the same. I offered to pay for church fees, flowers, cars, cake and wedding bells for all of them. Which was gratefully accepted on each occasion. Standing outside after the ceremony at the first wedding listening to the joyous sound of wedding bells, I over-heard the bride say to her friend 'What a racket'! At the second wedding the bride stood up and thanked her Mother profusely for everything she had done and said not one word about me in her speech. At the third wedding again the bride stood up and thanked her Mother but also left me out of her speech.
I am not usually sensitive to these things, but surely when I had done my best to help out I should have been thanked a little bit too don't you think?
I don't think DIL think about how their words, or lack of, can affect their new MIL. I know I felt very upset at the time. I have had to grit my teeth and keep quiet so as not to cause a problem with my new Daughters in Law. Mothers in Law sometimes feel like they are walking on thin ice don't they.
What do you think?
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