If once upon a time, decades ago, you were able to help a younger member of the family/teenager /student when they needed it (the odd lift, £20 quid to help pay the electric etc, loan for a rental deposit that was repaid etc.... not talking 'big' things here, and not more than a handful of times ...) - would you keep bringing it up 40 yrs later on a guilt trip?
Do you keep raising the topic and reminding them of your previous generosity?
To put it in context they have always had a happy and healthy relationship and the younger person - now much older themselves - has always been kind, responsible and helpful in all kinds of ways.
What is the role of an older relative towards a child or young person in times of need? Is some 'return' to be expected much later - or is it given freely out of love to the younger generation in a particular period of time when they're growing up and finding their feet ?
apple trees not flowering this year. Anyone else?
Good Morning Saturday 27th April 2024