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We recently teamed up with Relate to explore the secrets of good long-term relationships, and give a true picture of sex and love in later years. From trust to laughter, to a good imagination, we spill the beans on gransnetters' secrets to a happy relationship.
See the full results of the survey below, and a summary here.
Gransnet relationships survey 25 Jan-8 Feb 16/ 634 respondents.
1. What is your relationship status?
Answer options | Response percent | Response count |
---|---|---|
Single and intending to stay that way | 8% | 53 |
Single but actively looking to meet a new partner | 4% | 25 |
Married (first marriage) | 45% | 286 |
Married (second or subsequent marriage) | 22% | 141 |
In a short-term or new (under one year) unmarried relationship | 1% | 8 |
In a long-term unmarried relationship (over one year) | 12% | 75 |
Other (please specify) | 7% | 44 |
Not stated | 0% | 2 |
Answered question | 634 | |
Skipped question | 0 |
2. How long have you been in your current relationship?
Answer options | Response percent | Response count | Response percent | Response count | |
---|---|---|---|---|---|
Under 5 years | 4% | 25 | 4% | 25 | |
5-10 years | 4% | 24 | 4% | 24 | |
11-15 years | 8% | 48 | 9% | 48 | |
16-20 years | 8% | 48 | 9% | 48 | |
21-25 years | 7% | 46 | 8% | 46 | |
26-30 years | 5% | 33 | 6% | 33 | |
31-35 years | 7% | 46 | 8% | 46 | |
36-40 years | 10% | 66 | 12% | 66 | |
41-45 years | 16% | 99 | 18% | 99 | |
46-50 years | 10% | 62 | 11% | 62 | |
50+ years | 6% | 39 | 7% | 39 | |
NA: Not in a relationship now | 15% | 97 | |||
Not stated | 0% | 1 | Average | 32 | |
answered question | 634 | 536 | |||
skipped question | 0 | 0 |
3. When it comes to making a relationship last over the long term, how important do you find each of the following factors?
Answer options | Very important | Quite important | Neither important nor unimportant | Not very important | Not at all important | Don't know/not sure/notstated | Response count | Net important | Net not inportant | |
---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
Love | 71% | 24% | 3% | 0% | 1% | 2% | 634 | 95% | 1% | |
Trust | 90% | 8% | 1% | 0% | 0% | 1% | 634 | 98% | 0% | |
Mutual support | 80% | 17% | 1% | 0% | 0% | 2% | 634 | 97% | 0% | |
Kindness | 79% | 18% | 1% | 0% | 0% | 1% | 634 | 97% | 0% | |
Generosity | 39% | 47% | 11% | 1% | 0% | 2% | 634 | 86% | 2% | |
Good communication | 78% | 19% | 0% | 0% | 0% | 2% | 634 | 97% | 0% | |
Open minded-ness | 34% | 46% | 17% | 1% | 1% | 2% | 634 | 80% | 2% | |
Fidelity | 79% | 15% | 4% | 1% | 0% | 1% | 634 | 94% | 1% | |
Having an open relationship, with other partners | 3% | 3% | 9% | 5% | 64% | 16% | 634 | 6% | 85%* | |
Humour | 64% | 31% | 4% | 0% | 0% | 1% | 634 | 95% | 0% | |
Friendship/companionship | 80% | 17% | 1% | 0% | 0% | 1% | 634 | 97% | 0% | |
Sex | 16% | 49% | 22% | 7% | 3% | 3% | 634 | 65% | 11% | |
Similar backgrounds | 11% | 43% | 32% | 8% | 3% | 2% | 634 | 54% | 11% | |
Similar ages | 8% | 35% | 35% | 13% | 6% | 2% | 634 | 43% | 19% | |
Similar view on important things (eg parenting styles, ethics, political views etc.) | 30% | 53% | 14% | 2% | 0% | 1% | 634 | 83% | 2% | |
Answered question | 634 | *includes DK | ||||||||
Skipped question | 0 |
4. How often do you have sex (however you define it!) with your partner?
Answer options | Response percent | Response count | Response percent | Response count | |
---|---|---|---|---|---|
Daily | 1% | 7 | 2% | 7 | |
Twice a week or more | 6% | 38 | 8% | 38 | |
Around once a week | 16% | 102 | 23% | 102 | |
Around twice a month | 13% | 80 | 18% | 80 | |
Around once a month | 6% | 37 | 8% | 37 | |
Every couple of months | 6% | 35 | 8% | 35 | |
Once every six months or thereabouts | 3% | 16 | 4% | 16 | |
Once or twice a year | 1% | 5 | 1% | 5 | |
Almost never | 4% | 28 | 6% | 28 | |
Never - but I wish we did | 7% | 44 | 10% | 44 | |
Never - and I'm happy with that | 9% | 59 | 13% | 59 | |
N/A: don't have a partner these days | 15% | 92 | |||
Rather not say | 8% | 53 | |||
Other (please specify) | 6% | 38 | |||
answered question | 634 | 451 | |||
skipped question | 0 | 0 |
5. Sex and intimacy can wax and wane over the course of a relationship. If you are in a long term relationship, please tell us how far each of the following statements applies (or doesn't apply) to you and your relationship?
Based on all answering | |||||||||
---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
Answer options | Strongly agree | Tend to agree | Neither agree nor disagree | Tend to disagree | Strongly disagree | All answering | Net agree | Net disagree | |
We had more sex once our children had grown up and left home | 9% | 26% | 28% | 24% | 13% | 379 | 35% | 37% | |
We have more sex now that we’re retired than we did when one or both of us worked | 5% | 12% | 22% | 26% | 36% | 400 | 17% | 62% | |
The sex we have has improved over the course of our relationship | 11% | 29% | 27% | 21% | 12% | 474 | 40% | 33% | |
Looking back, the period when we had small children was the most difficult for our sex lives | 10% | 25% | 23% | 27% | 15% | 385 |
35% | 42% | |
Truth be told, sex between us has got quite boring | 6% | 24% | 22% | 24% | 24% | 453 | 30% | 48% | |
Over the course of our relationship, we’ve gone through lots of ‘dry spells’ and lots of times when we can’t keep our hands off each other | 9% | 31% | 25% | 23% | 12% | 480 | 40% | 34% | |
I find monogamy quite difficult in the long term | 2% | 6% | 8% | 18% | 65% | 490 | 9% | 83% | |
Our sex life has been consistent throughout our relationship | 7% | 26% | 14% | 33% | 20% | 490 | 33% | 53% |
6. Can you tell us how far you agree or disagree with the following statements?
Answer Options | Strongly agree | Tend to agree | Neither agree nor disagree | Tend to disagree | Strongly disagree | All answering | Net agree | Net disagree | |
---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
My sex life is more satisfying now than it was when I was younger | 9% | 18% | 23% | 22% | 28% | 497 | 27% | 50% | |
People don't like to think about older people having sex - I feel I have to keep quiet about it with family and friends | 12% | 40% | 28% | 14% | 6% | 545 | 52% | 20% | |
I'd be reluctant to talk to my GP about physical symptoms that affected my sex life | 10% | 28% | 16% | 24% | 22% | 567 | 37% | 47% | |
Menopausal symptoms had a big negative impact on my sex life | 15% | 28% | 17% | 21% | 18% | 563 | 44% | 39% | |
I'm not bothered about sex - it's just not a big factor for me | 13% | 28% | 17% | 23% | 18% | 578 | 41% | 41% |
7. To what extent do you think each of the following factors contributes to good sex in a long-term relationship?
Based on all answering | |||||||||||||
---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
Answer options | Contributes a lot to a good sex life | Contributes a bit to a good sex life | Doesn’t contribute much to a good sex life | Doesn't contribute at all to a good sex life | Don't know | Rather not say/not stated | Response count | Contributes a lot to a good sex life | Contributes a bit to a good sex life | Doesn’t contribute much to a good sex life | Doesn't contribute at all to a good sex life | Base | |
Communication | 60% | 28% | 3% | 1% | 2% | 6% | 634 | 65% | 31% | 3% | 1% | 586 | |
Being comfortable with your body | 53% | 36% | 4% | 1% | 2% | 4% | 634 | 56% | 38% | 4% | 2% | 592 | |
Humour | 48% | 38% | 6% | 1% | 3% | 4% | 634 | 52% | 40% | 7% | 1% | 590 | |
Love/affection | 74% | 17% | 1% | 1% | 2% | 6% | 634 | 80% | 18% | 1% | 1% | 584 | |
Time spent together | 39% | 41% | 10% | 2% | 3% | 4% | 634 | 43% | 44% | 11% | 2% | 582 | |
Lots of time apart and separate interests | 6% | 30% | 29% | 17% | 13% | 5% | 634 | 8% | 36% | 35% | 21% | 518 | |
Sex toys | 3% | 23% | 20% | 17% | 29% | 7% | 634 | 5% | 37% | 32% | 26% | 405 | |
Products to assist comfort/enjoyment during sex (eg lubricant/Viagra etc) | 15% | 34% | 15% | 9% | 22% | 5% | 634 | 20% | 46% | 21% | 13% | 464 | |
Sharing fantasies | 6% | 25% | 25% | 16% | 22% | 6% | 634 | 9% | 34% | 35% | 22% | 458 | |
Having an open relationship (ie sex with other people, with your partner's knowledge and consent) | 1% | 1% | 5% | 66% | 22% | 6% | 634 | 1% | 2% | 6% | 91% | 459 | |
Remaining attracted to your partner | 59% | 31% | 3% | 0% | 2% | 5% | 634 | 63% | 33% | 3% | 0% | 588 | |
A good imagination | 21% | 42% | 16% | 6% | 8% | 6% | 634 | 25% | 49% | 19% | 7% | 540 | |
Answered question | 634 | ||||||||||||
Skipped question | 0 |
8. Has your relationship improved, got worse or stayed the same since retirement/children leaving home?
Answer Options | Response Percent | Response Count |
---|---|---|
Improved | 25% | 158 |
Declined/got worse | 16% | 101 |
Stayed the same | 27% | 171 |
N/A: not been in the same relationship | 20% | 125 |
N/A: not retired/children still at home | 10% | 61 |
Don't know/not stated | 3% | 18 |
answered question | 634 | |
skipped question | 0 |
8. Has your relationship improved, got worse or stayed the same since retirement/children leaving home? Base: all answering
Answer Options | Response Percent | Response Count |
---|---|---|
Improved | 37% | 158 |
Declined/got worse | 23% | 101 |
Stayed the same | 40% | 171 |
answered question | 430 | |
skipped question | 0 |
9. If your relationship has improved since the children left home/ retirement: which of the following has contributed to your relationship improving? Please tick all that apply. Base: all whose relationship has improved since the children left home/retirement
Answer options | Response percent | Response count |
---|---|---|
More time together | 67% | 106 |
Less stress | 70% | 111 |
More time to spend on shared hobbies | 30% | 47 |
Deep understanding of each other | 45% | 71 |
Fewer arguments | 43% | 68 |
Better communication | 48% | 76 |
Less financial worry | 57% | 90 |
I have mellowed with time | 22% | 34 |
My partner has mellowed with time | 18% | 29 |
We have both mellowed with time | 61% | 96 |
Fewer body hang-ups | 30% | 48 |
Other (please specify) | 3% | 5 |
answered question | 158 | |
skipped question | 0 |
10. If you found love in later life (after the age of 55), how did that come about? Base: all who found love in later life
Answer Options | Response Percent | Response Count |
---|---|---|
Meeting through family/friends | 10% | 12 |
Set up by family/friends | 6% | 7 |
Internet dating sites | 34% | 40 |
Hobbies | 8% | 9 |
Community groups | 8% | 10 |
In a bar/club/at a party or social gathering | 9% | 11 |
A chance meeting (eg on the street) | 8% | 10 |
Due to death of previous partner | 14% | 17 |
Due to divorce/separation | 23% | 27 |
Other (please specify) | 13% | 15 |
answered question | 119 | |
skipped question | 0 |
11. If you were/are single and aged 55+, which do you think are or would be the main barriers in finding love in later life?
Answer options | Response percent | Response count |
---|---|---|
Knowing where to meet potential partners | 32% | 203 |
Body confidence | 23% | 144 |
Not wanting to relinquish independence/own space | 32% | 201 |
Adjusting to a new person’s habits | 32% | 200 |
Dealing with your new partner’s family members | 17% | 106 |
Men of a similar age might want to be with younger women | 20% | 127 |
Everyone same age already has a partner | 12% | 79 |
Fear of new relationships | 14% | 90 |
Concerns about internet dating | 14% | 90 |
Concerns about sex with someone new | 22% | 140 |
Other (please specify) | 7% | 44 |
Not stated | 43% | 271 |
answered question | ||
skipped question |
12. How old are you?
Answer options
Response percent
Response count
Under 35
0%
0
36-40
0%
0
41-45
0%
0
46-50
0%
0
51-55
7%
46
56-60
23%
146
61-65
30%
189
66-70
28%
180
71-75
9%
56
76-80
1%
9
81-85
1%
7
86-90
0%
0
91+
0%
1
answered question
634
skipped question
0
13. Are you female or male?
Answer options
Response percent
Response count
Female
95%
604
Male
5%
29
Other
0%
2
answered question
634
skipped question
0
14. Where do you live (at present)?
Answer Options | Response Percent | Response Count |
---|---|---|
North East | 5% | 29 |
North West | 12% | 77 |
Yorkshire & The Humber | 8% | 50 |
East Midlands | 7% | 43 |
West Midlands | 7% | 43 |
East of England | 9% | 55 |
London | 7% | 46 |
South East | 19% | 121 |
South West | 14% | 89 |
Wales | 4% | 23 |
Scotland | 6% | 41 |
Northern Ireland | 1% | 5 |
Isle of Man | 0% | 2 |
Channel Islands | 0% | 1 |
Republic of Ireland | 0% | 2 |
Not stated | 1% | 7 |
answered question | 634 | |
skipped question | 0 |
15. How many children do you have (of any age)?
Answer options
Response percent
Response count
None
4%
28
One
9%
59
Two
47%
298
Three
25%
161
Four
9%
58
Five
3%
18
Six
1%
7
Seven
0%
2
Eight
0%
2
Nine or more
0%
1
answered question
634
skipped question
0
16. How many grandchildren do you have (of any age)?
Answer Options | Response Percent | Response Count |
---|---|---|
None - SKIP NEXT QUESTION | 13% | 85 |
One | 14% | 86 |
Two | 18% | 117 |
Three | 16% | 103 |
Four | 14% | 91 |
Five | 8% | 51 |
Six | 5% | 33 |
Seven | 3% | 22 |
Eight | 3% | 17 |
Nine or more | 5% | 29 |
answered question | 634 | |
skipped question | 0 |
17. How old are your grandchildren? Tick all that apply
Answer options
Response percent
Response count
Up to 6 months
11%
61
From 6 up to 12 months
10%
56
1
18%
102
2
26%
141
3
22%
124
4
26%
142
5
23%
126
6
22%
120
7
20%
111
8
17%
93
9
16%
86
10
15%
82
11
13%
71
12
13%
70
13
9%
51
14
10%
54
15
9%
48
16
9%
51
17
6%
32
18
5%
28
Over 18
17%
96
answered question
skipped question