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Gransnet teamed up with Relate to explore romantic relationships after bereavement, divorce or separation. From moving on after bereavement to what ther children think about new relationships, here's what gransnetters had to say.
Q1.
Men seem to move on more quickly than women to new relationships after bereavement: | |
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Net agree | 56% |
Net disagree | 12% |
Strongly agree | 14% |
Agree | 43% |
Neither agree nor disagree | 23% |
Disagree | 10% |
Strongly disagree | 2% |
Don't know/N/A | 8% |
Men seem to move on more quickly than women to new relationships after separation or divorce: | |
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Net agree | 67% |
Net disagree | 10% |
Strongly agree | 21% |
Agree | 47% |
Neither agree nor disagree | 19% |
Disagree | 8% |
Strongly disagree | 2% |
Don't know/N/A | 4% |
Newly single older men are less able or willing to live independently for long periods than newly single older women: | |
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Net agree | 69% |
Net disagree | 10% |
Strongly agree | 18% |
Agree | 51% |
Neither agree nor disagree | 15% |
Disagree | 8% |
Strongly disagree | 2% |
Don't know/N/A | 5% |
It's easier for newly single older men to find new partners than it is for newly single older women: | |
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Net agree | 62% |
Net disagree | 12% |
Strongly agree | 17% |
Agree | 45% |
Neither agree nor disagree | 21% |
Disagree | 9% |
Strongly disagree | 3% |
Don't know/N/A | 6% |
Single men of my age only seem to be interested in younger women: | |
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Net agree | 54% |
Net disagree | 15% |
Strongly agree | 14% |
Agree | 40% |
Neither agree nor disagree | 24% |
Disagree | 11% |
Strongly disagree | 4% |
Don't know/N/A | 7% |
Newly single older women seem to be fussier about their choice of new partner than newly single older men: | |
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Net agree | 61% |
Net disagree | 10% |
Strongly agree | 17% |
Agree | 44% |
Neither agree nor disagree | 21% |
Disagree | 8% |
Strongly disagree | 2% |
Don't know/N/A | 8% |
Newly single older men seem to be more likely to prioritise the importance of an active sex life than newly single older women: | |
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Net agree | 50% |
Net disagree | 11% |
Strongly agree | 11% |
Agree | 39% |
Neither agree nor disagree | 28% |
Disagree | 8% |
Strongly disagree | 3% |
Don't know/N/A | 12% |
After bereavement within a long-term marriage or relationship, the surviving spouse shouldn't make any life-changing decisions for at least two years: | |
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Net agree | 51% |
Net disagree | 19% |
Strongly agree | 18% |
Agree | 34% |
Neither agree nor disagree | 26% |
Disagree | 15% |
Strongly disagree | 4% |
Don't know/N/A | 4% |
Newly single older women are less able or willing to live independently for long periods than newly single older men: | |
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Net agree | 7% |
Net disagree | 72% |
Strongly agree | 1% |
Agree | 5% |
Neither agree nor disagree | 15% |
Disagree | 41% |
Strongly disagree | 31% |
Don't know/N/A | 6% |
Newly single older women seem to be more likely to prioritise the importance of an active sex life than newly single older men: | |
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Net agree | 7% |
Net disagree | 43% |
Strongly agree | 1% |
Agree | 5% |
Neither agree nor disagree | 39% |
Disagree | 33% |
Strongly disagree | 10% |
Don't know/N/A | 12% |
Q2. If you have a partner, please say whether you have ever had a discussion about the following...
About the appropriateness of starting a new relationship if one of us was to become seriously unwell: | |
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Yes, we have | 12% |
No, we haven't | 59% |
Don't know/ N/A | 29% |
About how we'd feel about starting a new relationship while the other partner was very unwell: | |
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Yes, we have | 7% |
No, we haven't | 64% |
Don't know/ N/A | 28% |
About whether there's a specific person that I would 'approve' / 'disapprove' of for my partner or vice versa, should one of us become seriously unwell: | |
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Yes, we have | 2% |
No, we haven't | 68% |
Don't know/ N/A | 30% |
About whether there's a specific person that I would 'approve' / 'disapprove' of for my partner or vice versa, should one of us die: | |
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Yes, we have | 4% |
No, we haven't | 67% |
Don't know/ N/A | 30% |
About starting new relationships should either of us die: | |
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Yes, we have | 29% |
No, we haven't | 41% |
Don't know/ N/A | 30% |
How long a wait you or your partner feel would be reasonable before you moved on romantically: | |
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Yes, we have | 9% |
No, we haven't | 60% |
Don't know/ N/A | 31% |
Q3. Approximately how soon after divorce, separation or the death of a partner do you think it is appropriate to start a new romantic relationship?
After divorce: | |
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Before end of relationship/before death | 2% |
Immediately - 1 month | 9% |
1 - 3 months | 6% |
3 - 6 months | 11% |
6 months - 1 year | 24% |
1 - 2 years | 22% |
2 - 3 years | 6% |
3 - 5 years | 1% |
More than 5 years | 0% |
Never | 1% |
Don't know/ N/A | 19% |
After separation: | |
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Before end of relationship/before death | 2% |
Immediately - 1 month | 6% |
1 - 3 months | 7% |
3 - 6 months | 11% |
6 months - 1 year | 25% |
1 - 2 years | 21% |
2 - 3 years | 6% |
3 - 5 years | 1% |
More than 5 years | 0% |
Never | 1% |
Don't know/ N/A | 21% |
After partner's death: | |
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Before end of relationship/before death | 0% |
Immediately - 1 month | 1% |
1 - 3 months | 1% |
3 - 6 months | 3% |
6 months - 1 year | 13% |
1 - 2 years | 35% |
2 - 3 years | 20% |
3 - 5 years | 3% |
More than 5 years | 1% |
Never | 2% |
Don't know/ N/A | 22% |
Q4. If you have had a partner who has passed away, have you subsequently moved on to a new relationship? | |
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Yes | 18% |
No | 82% |
Q5. If yes, how long was it between your partner's death and the start of your new relationship? | |
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Before death | 4% |
Immediately or up to 1 month | 0% |
1 - 3 months | 2% |
3 - 6 months | 8% |
6 months - 1 year | 12% |
1 - 2 years | 27% |
2 - 3 years | 14% |
3 - 5 years | 6% |
More than 5 years | 24% |
Never | 0% |
Don't know/ N/A | 2% |
Q6. If you have separated from a partner, have you subsequently moved on to a new relationship? | |
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Yes | 51% |
No | 49% |
Q7. If yes, approximately how long was it between the separation and the start of the new relationship? | |
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Before end of relationship | 16% |
Immediately or up to 1 month | 4% |
1 - 3 months | 11% |
3 - 6 months | 15% |
6 months - 1 year | 17% |
1 - 2 years | 16% |
2 - 3 years | 8% |
3 - 5 years | 4% |
More than 5 years | 5% |
Never | 1% |
Don't know/ N/A | 2% |
Q8. If you have divorced a partner, have you subsequently moved on to a new relationship? | |
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Yes | 63% |
No | 37% |
Q9. If yes, approximately how long was it between the divorce and the start of the new relationship? | |
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Before end of relationship | 15% |
After the end of the relationship but before divorce finalised | 23% |
Immediately or up to 1 month | 0% |
1 - 3 months | 4% |
3 - 6 months | 6% |
6 months - 1 year | 13% |
1 - 2 years | 14% |
2 - 3 years | 8% |
3 - 5 years | 4% |
More than 5 years | 11% |
Never | 0% |
Don't know/ N/A | 0% |
Q10. If you met a partner later in life, how did you meet him/her? | |
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Matchmaking by adult children/grandchildren | 1% |
Matchmaking by friends | 7% |
You initiated a date with someone else | 2% |
You were approached by someone else | 2% |
Internet dating | 30% |
Shared interest groups | 14% |
Chance meeting | 14% |
You were friends originally | 18% |
Other | 20% |
Q11. If you are or have been single whilst having older or adult children, would you say...
Your children have ever played or tried to play matchmaker for you? | |
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Yes | 11% |
No | 87% |
Don't know | 2% |
Your children have ever objected to a potential or actual partner? | |
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Yes | 31% |
No | 62% |
Don't know | 6% |
Your children have a good understanding of who would be a good partner for you? | |
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Yes | 38% |
No | 23% |
Don't know | 39% |
You would trust your children to be good matchmakers for you? | |
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Yes | 26% |
No | 44% |
Don't know | 30% |
Your children don't want you to have a partner and prefer you to be alone? | |
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Yes | 13% |
No | 65% |
Don't know | 23% |
Your children have objected to you moving on with what they see as 'indecent haste' after death or divorce etc.? | |
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Yes | 8% |
No | 82% |
Don't know | 10% |
Q12. If your children have ever objected to a partner/potential partner, why did they object? | |
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In their opinion too soon after divorce/parent's death | 7% |
Concerned about new partner's intentions | 26% |
Personality conflict with new partner | 57% |
Worried about new partner taking place of parent who has passed away/been divorced | 12% |
Concerns regarding inheritance | 6% |
Other | 13% |
Q13. And, if they objected, how did you handle this? | |
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Ended the relationship with the partner | 29% |
Continued the relationship with the partner and things have sorted themselves out | 36% |
Continued the relationship with the partner regardless and endured the unpleasantness | 22% |
Lost contact with my children as a result of the relationship | 2% |
Other | 16% |
Q14. How do you think the conversation about finding a romantic relationship after losing a partner is between...
You and your friends/relations your own age | |
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A taboo topic | 2% |
Somewhere in between taboo and openly discussed | 19% |
Openly discussed | 51% |
Don't know | 10% |
N/A | 18% |
You and your children | |
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A taboo topic | 8% |
Somewhere in between taboo and openly discussed | 26% |
Openly discussed | 29% |
Don't know | 12% |
N/A | 25% |
Q15. How old are you? | |
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50-54 | 20% |
55-59 | 18% |
60-64 | 25% |
65-69 | 26% |
70-74 | 9% |
75-79 | 2% |
80-84 | 0% |
85-89 | 0% |
90+ | 0% |
Q16. Are you male or female? | |
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Other | 0% |
Female | 96% |
Male | 4% |
Q17. Where do you live (at present)? | |
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North East | 4% |
North West | 9% |
Yorkshire & The Humber | 9% |
East Midlands | 8% |
West Midlands | 7% |
East of England | 9% |
London | 8% |
South East | 18% |
South West | 13% |
Wales | 4% |
Scotland | 6% |
Northern Ireland | 1% |
Isle of Man | 0% |
Channel Islands | 0% |
Republic of Ireland | 0% |
Outside UK/Eire | 2% |
Q18. How many children do you have (of any age)? | |
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None | 6% |
1 | 16% |
2 | 47% |
3 | 18% |
4 | 7% |
5 | 4% |
6 | 0% |
7 | 0% |
8 | 0% |
Nine or more | 0% |
Click here for a summary of the survey results, or for more relationships news and discussions take a look at our forum.