6 year old grandson doesnt like me - Help please

I am sure this is a phase, maybe he is feeling very insecure for some reason. Just carry on being loving and looking delighted when you see him .I am sure he will come round.
R emember the phases our own children went through.

My senior GD went through the surly teenager 'phase' and is now a friendly and loving young woman. They have plenty of phases on the way to and through adolescence but the trouble is that adolescence seems to begin about 4 these days!

Even now, with the 9 year old, I am just as likely to get a friendly karate chop on the shoulder as I am to get a kiss from him at bedtime. Kids eh!

Yes, I get some "cupboard love" from my 4 year old gs. When we are out as a family and I feel his little hand slip into mine, I know we are approaching a toy shop! Its the only time he will willingly hold my hand!

I think you have to hold on to the "its a phase" thought. Remember what they were like when they were really tiny and comfort yourself that that is basically "them" and they they will come back to being sweet and loving again.

Think you have hit the nail on the head granmouse. My DGC are not allowed videos on while we are visiting, so have been asked "are you going home now "?

Basing I have exactly the same problem with one of mine-his sister told me 'xxxx doesnt like you' when I asked him which cereal he wanted for breakfast!I looked across at him and he grinned and said,'Well no actually I dont like you very much at all!!'.I was horrified as I have always treated my 9 dgc equally.This happened about 18 months ago when he was 6 and a half and he was quite difficult with me for about a year then there was a sudden change,no explanation, and now he is sweet and loving.I gather from his mum it stemmed from him being told not to play on Wii game while we were there for a short visit.We didnt know that but ir obviously really rankled with him.

My grandson is 4yo and sometimes doesn`t say anything when he comes to my house, but goes straight into the cupboard where the goodies are, I told him if he wants something he has to ask and if he plays up he gets nothing, and then I ignore him. He comes around and talks to me then, the best thing is to ignore them as much as possible when they are like that.

One of my GSs, almost 6, started to behave this way before Christmas last year whereas he had been very amenable when I was drafted in for child care last summer. I put it down to the excitement of the approaching festivities, but he is still a bit 'difficult'. The problem is that little brother has started to copy him. I am inclined to suspect undesirable peer-group influence at school. Perhaps you could look into this, Basing.

Ouch! My GD was pretty grumpy with me when she was 3 and her baby brother arrived. I was the person who took her off to nursery.
Sometimes she yelled at me things like "Don't talk to me!" from back of car. Is there something in his life at the moment that is bothering him - grandmothers can be a useful "punchbag" if there is maybe someone else they can't take it out on?
You have not said how long this has been going on.

oh thanks for that Jangly - its always a relief to know that I am not the only one struggling with something - will wait patiently till he's 9 then!!
lynne

I meant "when you are out". Sorry - typo.

Oh, that must be very hurtful.
I think this a stage a lot of children go through. They worship Mum and Dad, and heaven help anyone who they think is trying to take their place in even the smallest way.
He will come out of this when he gets older. My older grandson was a bit like this. He is 9 now and, although I know he has always loved me, he has behaved in just the way you describe. He has just, in the last few months, turned the corner and now is much more open and loving.
I don't think there is anything, really, you can do. Just carry on letting him know that you love him, without stressing it too much. Don't insist on a kiss goodbye or at bedtime. Just be casually nice to him. And wait for him to grow out of it.
Of course, so far as holding your hand when you are, that is quite a different matter. And he musn't be allowed to be rude to you. Both those things call for firm talking to by Mum and Dad.
HTH.