6 year old grandson doesnt like me - Help please

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I think you will find that this is a phase and that he will be a delightful young man eventually.

oh my gosh! i feel great empathy for you, something like this happened to me a few years back with my GD, she would never talk to me, ignore just like your 6 year old GS..

I recommend that you speak to your GS parents, and maybe get a better understanding about your GS, what he likes, what he does etc.

I hope this all works out for you

Hi, I know the feeling only too well.. We've got granddaughter where we've also got the same problem.. She's nearly 7 and there's just silence from her and giving dirty looks.. Won't stay with us. Won't come here to see us.. So I just keto saying to Myself oh well she'll grow out of it.. One day she'll need us. As long as he knows he's loved. Keep giving nice birthday treats and money so he can buy what he would like towards his birthday and Christmas like you do the other grand kids. We too have another 4 grand kids and they're all fine with us.. So keep saying they'll come around when they want.. They're still kids... Keep you chin up one day he'll come and see you with a smile and a hug..

petra

rowyn

As an ex child psychologist I totally agree with Grandma Ange. Play it cool - don't show extremes of emotion but just deal with him in the way someone at work might deal with a client - polite and calm, even when the client is rude.
And ensure that the parents don't make a BIG issue of his behaviour towards you, though of course they must deal with rudeness or similar.

THIS POST THREAD IS 13 YEARS OLD. THE GRANDSON IS NOW 19.

Can’t stop laughing some people just not reading this thread properly just carrying on !,

CazB
Tictacnana
DO YOU NEED HELP UNDERSTANDING THAT THIS THREAD IS 14 years old.
THE WEE GRANDSON IS NOW 19.

* THREAD FROM 2011*

I’d ignore it . He probably thinks that he’s ’got you on a butty ‘ as they say here up north. I used to teach this age group and I’d get little dears saying that they didn’t like me. I’d say something like’ That’s okay “ or “ Whatever… “. just to let them know that I wasn’t bothered. I think they noticed how much fun we had and gradually decided to give in. I’d make sure that you let him see you having laughter and fun with your other GC and let him join in if he wants to. Otherwise, ignore his rude behaviour. Don’t let him have the slightest inkling that his behaviour bothers you. It’s all about power.

sandra

After reading these comments about everyone's difficult GC I am beginning to dread becoming a 1st time Gran in November. Think I'd be very upset if I was treated like this.
Children today seem to be much more difficult from what I'm hearing here! Actually I shouldn't be surprised as I work in a boy's secondary school and most kids seem to think the world owes them a living. Fingers crossed our little one will be better than that

Children vary. None of my 5 GCs did this. They all have their funny little ways though.

Enjoy your GC. 🙂

I can quite understand how you feel Basing23, as my 4 year old granddaughter hasn't bonded with me at all, won't say hello or goodbye and barely speaks to me when I try to talk to her. I have always treated her in exactly the same way as her older brother, who has always been sweet and loving to me. I too, am trying to ride it out, and hope that things will change one day. Incidentally, I do remember my older son disliking my MiL when he was little, but he became very fond of her later on. Just go on as you are, and good luck!

Calendargirl

OLD THREAD.

GS will be 19 now.

I fall for it every time. I had thought there were some unfamiliar names on the thread.

Rithospouskins is asking about HER OWN position with her grandchild NOW!

I suggest you start a new thread Routhuspouskins otherwise you will find endless replies about this being an old post as people tend to read an original post in a thread first

Georgesgran

How do people, often new names, find these old threads to resurrect?

Perhaps Ruthospouskins could tell us 🤷‍♀️

rowyn

As an ex child psychologist I totally agree with Grandma Ange. Play it cool - don't show extremes of emotion but just deal with him in the way someone at work might deal with a client - polite and calm, even when the client is rude.
And ensure that the parents don't make a BIG issue of his behaviour towards you, though of course they must deal with rudeness or similar.

THIS POST THREAD IS 13 YEARS OLD. THE GRANDSON IS NOW 19.

THE CHILD IN QUESTION IS NOW 19 YEARS OLD!!!

As an ex child psychologist I totally agree with Grandma Ange. Play it cool - don't show extremes of emotion but just deal with him in the way someone at work might deal with a client - polite and calm, even when the client is rude.
And ensure that the parents don't make a BIG issue of his behaviour towards you, though of course they must deal with rudeness or similar.

Crumbs! Having read other replies I wondered what was going on as some mentioned it was an old post. Checked and sure enough it was 2011! What on earth is going on? Feel so stupid now as I replied! Have inly joined thus group recently so was not expecting to read 13 year old posts. Chuckle!

That’s a tough one as I haven’t experienced that with my grandchildren or nieces. All I can think of is, do you know of anything he might be good at (or want to be) and if so, do or play that with him? Fir example, drawing, painting, football? Or offer to teach him a new skill like playing some simple card games if he doesn’t know how or teach him how to do an easy jigsaw - corners first then sides, before the rest. Or teach him to make scones or some other easy recipe. Or, if you sew, ask him to choose fabric and a pattern and show him how you make it. Hope some of these ideas may help.

My grandson always gave me a hug & kiss, then bloody covid hit & put we were put ina bloody lockdown now I barely get a wave- think Covid has a lot to do with children’s social interaction today.

Yes you’re right JessM. My GS 9 with suspect ADHD has had traumatic time after DS and partner separated. Have attempted a couple of visits here and first time he attacked his sister after she won a game of chess. After I remonstrated he demanded to be taken home. The next time he came he got upset, couldn’t be consoled, and ran out of the house in the dark. We’ve been to DS to babysit since then and he’s been a bit better but guarded - have tried everything and it hurts.

I put up with my 6 year old's DGS bad behaviour for a few months before tackling it. Now i simply turn the tv off or any computer game in action without threats or warning and how well it changes the behaviour

I envy you all having a grandchild nearby to work on a relationship with. My grandsons emigrated when the eldest was 2 and the youngest a babe in arms. I thought my heart would break. I looked after the eldest from his baby days, while his mum and dad were at work. We were so close, our days were magical. I have so many wonderful memories. I keep in touch with FaceTime and get lots of photos and videos. We visit across the world and they come to us. I developed an autoimmune disease when they left which I still have 8 years on. The only reaction that was visible. It is only now that I see he remembers me when I visit. He was shy at first. The bond is still there and really deep. His brother is adorable too. I have to control myself because if I acted as I feel, I think I would eat them. So I know something of the patience needed for a great big love.

Ignore him. Talk to and joke with the others, and ask them whether they want scrambled egg on toast, or whatever, but do not ask him. Soon he will feel left out. If the parents say anything, tell them you will only communicate with children who communicate back. As for covering his ears before crossing the road - that's dangerous, and one of his hands should be in one of yours, as you cross, anyway. Do not be tempted to make a fuss of him and let him know that he is getting at you. In brief - pay him back in his own coin, without being rude.

Oops, just seen it's an old thread!

My eldest grandson was very tetchy with me as a little boy, and was always saying " No, not you, I want Grandpa to do it!" whether it was putting his shoes on or reading a story. It changed as he got older, and now he's a teenager he says "Can't believe I was like that, Nana!"