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Nanban Wed 04-Jul-12 18:42:53

A furore today with a crowd of breastfeeders occupying a cafe who had asked a breastfeeding mother to move to a more discreet table! The manager had to apologise and grovel to a bunch of frankly over-endowed breastfeeders. Yuk. Has the world gone totally mad - what girl/woman would walk down the street with her bosoms all-a-hanging; what man, flashing his privates wouldn't be arrested for indecency.

Frankly, if I am out and about, I do not want to be part of an act that should be private and quiet and personal! If I want to see bosoms I can open a porn magazine, or page 3 of a newspaper - I do not want them at lunch.

harrigran Wed 11-Jul-12 22:39:05

Bags my mother breastfed three of us for ten months, she was overweight all her life and died of heart disease, sadly it didn't do her much good.

petallus Wed 11-Jul-12 19:46:53

I was in a John Lewis cafe today and a young woman opposite with a baby began breast feeding. It was okay, she was very discreet about it. I think in the past I have been irritated by righteous earth mother types who seem to flaunt their breast-feeding habits as a sign of moral superiority.

jeni Wed 11-Jul-12 14:27:40

Sounds
Ike the landlord of our local!

Bags Wed 11-Jul-12 14:17:10

Rowan Pelling in today's Telegraph says this:

"Happily for lactation militants, a new tactic is at hand. Oxford researchers have found that women who breast-feed are slimmer – I repeat, “slimmer” – for the rest of their lives than those who don’t. There’s also some stuff about the practice reducing heart disease, diabetes and cancer, but let’s not worry about that. Tell every new mum she’ll have a figure like Kate Moss if she uses her chest as nature intended, and breast-feeding rates will soar."

Rude Pub Landlords Yes, it really does follow some blether about rude publicans!

Anagram Wed 11-Jul-12 13:15:48

I would put a wad of toilet paper in first, to muffle the sound!

Greatnan Wed 11-Jul-12 13:09:38

Oh, no, absent - that is what I used to do!

absentgrana Wed 11-Jul-12 12:54:51

Marilyn Monroe had a horror of being overheard when peeing. When Arthur Miller took her her "home" to meet his mother before they were married, she had to go to the bathroom. She turned on all the taps to drown out the sound of her peeing. When Arthur Miller later asked his mother what she thought of his fiancée, she replied "She's a lovely girl, but she pees like a horse".

maxgran Wed 11-Jul-12 12:27:11

When I had my son in the late 70s,.. my mother in law and the rest of the in laws would not come to visit us because I was breastfeeding. Apparently on their first visit when I came home from hospital, I breastfed in the lounge,..when I should have gone to my bedroom !!!

I breastfed very very discreetly,. I was quite shy about my body back then and would have never exposed a breast to anyone, so I was disgusted with their attitude. I made it clear to my husband that if they visited I would not be going to hide in another room

People who think breatsfeeding is to always be done in 'private' need to get over themselves. They don't have to look or stare at someone breastfeeding any more than they should stare at someone just sat nearby drinking coffee !

johanna Sat 07-Jul-12 18:28:13

mishap grin

jeni Sat 07-Jul-12 18:23:41

grin

Mishap Sat 07-Jul-12 18:19:45

Heavens - I had better go and pee right now!!! Cornet at the ready! - I am always ready to blow my own trumpet!

Anagram Sat 07-Jul-12 17:59:04

Who knew we were storing up all this trouble for ourselves? shock

harrigran Sat 07-Jul-12 17:56:53

More likely to cause ascending urinary infection from backflow up the ureters.

Anagram Sat 07-Jul-12 17:54:33

(I'll carry on doing it, though)

Anagram Sat 07-Jul-12 17:53:52

Well, we can't say we haven't been warned! confused

goldengirl Sat 07-Jul-12 17:51:24

JO4: apparently holding on increases the heart and blood pressure and for older people, and others who are ill or vulnerable it could cause a stroke or have other health implications.

soop Sat 07-Jul-12 11:08:18

Back to breast feeding. When we were having lunch in John Lewis, a very young baby screamed at the top of his "little" voice. After a few minutes of mayhem, the mother lifted her top and exposed a breast [not for too long] and baby was silenced as it fed. I understood that it was the natural and sensible thing to do. No one stared. It really isn't too hard to carry on enjoying the meal whilst having a normal conversation with one's partner, or admire the view through the window. In next to no time, baby and mother were at peace. smile

j04 Sat 07-Jul-12 08:43:31

Sorry. blush just caught sight of that post.

It was funny. grin

j04 Sat 07-Jul-12 08:42:34

A cornet!!!! jens!!! grin grin

Greatnan Sat 07-Jul-12 08:34:11

Oh, dear, Nanban - you are not in a light-hearted mood this morning, are you? Never mind, it is a lovely sunny day here in Haute Savoie and I am off to explore Bourg en Bresse - I hope you have a nice day planned for yourself.

Nanban Sat 07-Jul-12 08:12:02

Wonderful! You nutty lot have gone rapidly from breast-feeding to farting - I rest my case - something some of you think wonderful, intimate and precious is now in the same category as peeing in public! Where else could we get such conversation but here with us.

PS: first I've heard about extra tax on taps [we did have a house in France once till we recovered] - it was more that so many houses weren't on mains drainage and the French didn't feel the need to spend money on septic tanks when they can pee/poo in the gutters - plus the french fosse septique system works on worms that would be killed by the over-use of soap - another reason for its lack of use.

Ella46 Fri 06-Jul-12 22:30:02

jeni grin

Anagram Fri 06-Jul-12 22:06:09

Not really - I do it in the shower occasionally! grin

yogagran Fri 06-Jul-12 22:02:34

Keep practising jingle - you'll get the hang of it. It's a very strange sensation when you pee standing up hmm

jeni Fri 06-Jul-12 22:00:03

By the way. I hope the icecream container is not a cornet?