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...... to think most men become grumpier and more intolerant as they age

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Scumbag Thu 13-Sept-12 21:57:43

My DH has never been a bundle of laughs but as he approaches retirement age (and thus will be around me even more) he seems to complain constantly about everything and acts as if everyone else is out to make his life as difficult as possible.

Some examples being car going into garage then when he chases it up they haven't yet got the required spare part or similar excuse, ranting because he's received a phishing email from someone pretending to be his bank, it's raining when he planned to something out doors etc etc etc (none of these things would really raise a comment from me let alone a swearing rant)

If i posted this on Mumsnet I would probably be advised to 'leave the bastard' but after 30+ years that seems easier said than done - and obviously I wouldn't then be going out into the world alone expecting an exciting career and new admirers as someone younger might.

Also many of my peers seem to have DHs becoming similarly grumpy.

Any views out there, is it just me and can I change him? should I put up with it?

Greatnan Sun 16-Sept-12 20:41:54

I thought it was obvious that all our posts were tongue in cheek - perhaps the bit about older men being grumpy hit home!

Marelli Sun 16-Sept-12 20:17:28

Hope he comes back to see what we're really like. Perhaps he thought Gransnet was about something totally different.....you know, crocheting and wondering where we could find a strong man to open jars for us - that sort of thing! wink

Ariadne Sun 16-Sept-12 20:08:37

Poor old unicorn. Got it wrong.

Marelli Sun 16-Sept-12 20:08:31

Hear, hear, Elegran! grin

Elegran Sun 16-Sept-12 20:05:37

Unicorn, a zimmer frame can give a nasty wound when used to clip cheeky adolescents round the ear'ole so staying away is a good idea. Come back when you grow up.

Anagram Sun 16-Sept-12 20:04:49

Shame. I think unicorn's first post was meant to be tongue-in-cheek. His profile did say he was recently widowed, but now he's deleted it and decided to leave.

unicorn Sun 16-Sept-12 19:48:53

Well if thats your attitude then I will leave you all to your zimmer frames..seems to me that WOMEN can be just as GRUMPY AS MEN.....P.S. NOT supprised your divorced, bet your x is a very happy man
BYE BYE

Nanban Sun 16-Sept-12 18:58:59

Nah, not grumpier - just about the place more and so more noticeable!

Greatnan Sun 16-Sept-12 18:53:35

Remember - a woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle!

LaGrandeDuchesse Sun 16-Sept-12 18:32:11

Have discovered that my DD has not said anything to my DH, so he must be making an effort to be a bit cheerier himself which is nice to know.

Think I will make a point of responding when he is grumpy and complaining, I normally just switch off, in future I will give back a bit of what I get.

Anyway, all seems well in the household at present sunshine

Movedalot Sun 16-Sept-12 18:06:16

I'd need someone to come and help me do up some dificcult necklaces grin

annodomini Sun 16-Sept-12 17:59:57

I do very well without you, unicorn, thanks very much! Been divorced for 26 years and all the better for it, as are a number of other grans on the forums.

Notsogrand Sun 16-Sept-12 17:42:11

Would you like a list unicorn? 3 or 4 sheets of A4 should be enough! grin

unicorn Sun 16-Sept-12 17:36:29

Just read ALL these Comments and at the end of the day.YOU WOULDN'T know what to do without us.......lol

Marelli Sat 15-Sept-12 18:48:51

Bless 'im, soop! smile

kittylester Sat 15-Sept-12 18:14:16

soop flowers mrsoop wine

soop Sat 15-Sept-12 17:39:32

Before I bid you lovely lot farewell until tomorrow, I wish to say that mr soop has the kindest disposition of anyone I've known. Even when he is in real discomfort, [as was earlier today] he manages to maintain a pleasant demeanour. He is utterly unselfish and constantly supportive. I wish that I could be more like him. I shall not tell him that I've posted this message. He would be deeply embarrassed. smile

kittylester Sat 15-Sept-12 16:40:32

On a more serious note, I think Ariadne has a good point. DH and I are both really busy (he is retired but works part-time and I have voluntary work, a mother (!!) and grandchildren) so we spend little time together. When we do it's lovely to catch up on each other's day over a wine or winewine.

Maybe the answer is to spend lots of time apart. grin

Movedalot Sat 15-Sept-12 13:52:15

Yes Winefride reading all this makes me so happy that mine is not so bad and that jollying him out of it usually works. Luckily we have enough space to get away from each other when we need to.

I've had some really bad times in my life which I won't go into but being on GN makes me realise that what we have worked so hard for for so long is well worth having. Our lives may not be perfect but we are not doing so bad after all.

JO4 Sat 15-Sept-12 13:18:36

Sorry! Missed the wink!

Good joke. sunshine

JO4 Sat 15-Sept-12 13:18:01

Ian I'm not sure your angry post is going to convince us of that. grin

Winefride Sat 15-Sept-12 13:15:38

Good to know not alone with my mr grumpy and his what I call mad moments.reminds me of his Dad so no surprise. What I try to do is focus on his good points( not always successfully) failing that resort to greatnans turn of phrase works well if used sparingly as a shock tactic.however I'm sure many of us will have met lonely widows who would welcome their partner back despite their failings.

soop Sat 15-Sept-12 12:48:02

Ariadne...priceless! grin

Ariadne Sat 15-Sept-12 12:20:43

Puffing and huffing from the study: What is the matter?" I said.

"Somebody has moved a piece of paper that I need!" So I ignored it.

Later: "Did you find your bit of paper?"

"Yes, but I can't remember why I needed it."

Bez Sat 15-Sept-12 11:47:27

Ariadne - in this house it is always 'someone' must have moved it. As there are only two of us here most of the time the list of culprits is very short. I usually find whatever has been 'moved' and then he has a flash of ' oh I remember now'!!