looking for honest answers am I missing the joke in this?

I think that's totally disgusting. What was he thinking? If you're a prude them so am I.

As you have given permission to be honest, I was horrified reading your thread, what was he thinking!!! does he want his son to grow up disturbed. I am with you Carol!!

Horrible.

I think I would have removed the axe and wiped up the ketchup.

I agree with you. Not acceptable and I'm suprised your DIL left it there. Mind you, I suspect most small boys would find it funny.

ginny Probably both the small boys (father and son) thought it was funny.

Not nice at all,sending out the wrong messages I think to a four year old.

Horrible!

Horrible. I was similarly horrified to see photos on Facebook at Halloween of my friend's daughter and her boyfriend at a fancy-dress party dressed as Madeline Mcann's parents. They were holding a battered doll.

Horrible. And weird.

I worry about some parents. A lot. Should they be doing the job at all?

Marelli - sick!

Might be funny if the child was say, 10?
Too much nastiness in the world without daddy contaminating the snowman with it.

Why socialise a child into accepting such distorted experiences of what is for many youngsters a special time to look back on. Introducing weapons into play is not on, for me.

It is a disgusting thing to do at 4yr the little lad is more likely to want to keep the snow man warm. (If has not already been associated into violence by his Dad.) I also wonder about the father, its a very sick sense of humor and suggests he didnt even think about how his son might react. If the child was 10 maybe.

NO!!! Not if the child was 10!!!!!!! Or any age.

Why would you want to give a child a sick sense of humour in his formative years?

This is worrying, have you told him what you think? At the very least he was being thoughtless so perhaps you need to explain to him what he has done. Poor little chap.

Our GS was so proud of his snowman, it was lovely.

Not my idea of humour and totally inappropriate for a 4 year old.

Horrified! Sick and senseless and totally unfunny.

Carol123 Have you asked your DS why he did it?
I agree with everyone else.

Oh dear, now I'm worried! I think it hilarious and just the sort of thing a little boy would think funny.

A little boy of 4, Nanban? I think he'd be more likely to be upset and confused....

A few years older and he would fall about laughing, but at 4 he would have been pleased to have just made a snowman - and thrown some snowballs at it.

Carol only gives her reaction, I wonder how the little boy himself reacted? How about all the little boys who dress up ghoulishly for Halloween?