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looking for honest answers am I missing the joke in this?

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carol123 Thu 31-Jan-13 23:58:49

Ok there was a lot of snow and son had day off work while DIL went in. Son built a lovely snowman for GS 4yr old. Son then put a small axe in the snowman's head and put ketchup for blood on the axe and head.
I think this is totally disgusting to do to a small child's snowman and that there is no place for this even as a joke in a little boys life. It stayed like this until it melted.
Ok so is it funny or is it pathetic or am I being prudish?

vampirequeen Fri 01-Feb-13 00:11:31

I think that's totally disgusting. What was he thinking? If you're a prude them so am I.

Mey Fri 01-Feb-13 00:16:02

As you have given permission to be honest, I was horrified reading your thread, what was he thinking!!! does he want his son to grow up disturbed. I am with you Carol!!

Notsogrand Fri 01-Feb-13 00:16:11


Bags Fri 01-Feb-13 05:51:08

I think I would have removed the axe and wiped up the ketchup.

ginny Fri 01-Feb-13 09:02:52

I agree with you. Not acceptable and I'm suprised your DIL left it there. Mind you, I suspect most small boys would find it funny.

absent Fri 01-Feb-13 09:12:24

ginny Probably both the small boys (father and son) thought it was funny.

glammanana Fri 01-Feb-13 09:49:10

Not nice at all,sending out the wrong messages I think to a four year old.

jeni Fri 01-Feb-13 09:49:37


Marelli Fri 01-Feb-13 10:00:07

Horrible. I was similarly horrified to see photos on Facebook at Halloween of my friend's daughter and her boyfriend at a fancy-dress party dressed as Madeline Mcann's parents. They were holding a battered doll. angrysad

j07 Fri 01-Feb-13 10:09:03

Horrible. And weird.

I worry about some parents. A lot. Should they be doing the job at all?

j07 Fri 01-Feb-13 10:09:46

Marelli - sick!

JessM Fri 01-Feb-13 10:26:33

Might be funny if the child was say, 10?
Too much nastiness in the world without daddy contaminating the snowman with it.

whenim64 Fri 01-Feb-13 10:30:20

Why socialise a child into accepting such distorted experiences of what is for many youngsters a special time to look back on. Introducing weapons into play is not on, for me.

Nelliemoser Fri 01-Feb-13 10:48:25

It is a disgusting thing to do at 4yr the little lad is more likely to want to keep the snow man warm. (If has not already been associated into violence by his Dad.) I also wonder about the father, its a very sick sense of humor and suggests he didnt even think about how his son might react. If the child was 10 maybe.

j07 Fri 01-Feb-13 10:59:23

NO!!! Not if the child was 10!!!!!!! Or any age.

j07 Fri 01-Feb-13 11:00:02

Why would you want to give a child a sick sense of humour in his formative years?

Movedalot Fri 01-Feb-13 11:29:08

This is worrying, have you told him what you think? At the very least he was being thoughtless so perhaps you need to explain to him what he has done. Poor little chap.

Our GS was so proud of his snowman, it was lovely.

Mishap Fri 01-Feb-13 11:52:50

Not my idea of humour and totally inappropriate for a 4 year old.

soop Fri 01-Feb-13 13:55:15

Horrified! Sick and senseless and totally unfunny.

janeainsworth Fri 01-Feb-13 14:36:26

Carol123 Have you asked your DS why he did it?
I agree with everyone else.

Nanban Fri 01-Feb-13 14:59:40

Oh dear, now I'm worried! I think it hilarious and just the sort of thing a little boy would think funny.

Ana Fri 01-Feb-13 15:03:15

A little boy of 4, Nanban? I think he'd be more likely to be upset and confused....confused

Elegran Fri 01-Feb-13 15:06:37

A few years older and he would fall about laughing, but at 4 he would have been pleased to have just made a snowman - and thrown some snowballs at it.

Nanban Fri 01-Feb-13 15:10:38

Carol only gives her reaction, I wonder how the little boy himself reacted? How about all the little boys who dress up ghoulishly for Halloween?