To remonstrate with someone about bad timekeeping.?

still wrong – think not thing.

Perhaps I should add to my post.
Unless it is very early morning!
(I don't do mornings, not compos until third coffee

thing not thing.

Isn't punctuality said to be the politeness of kings? What makes this lawyer thing that he is more than royalty?

My GP was a bit late for my early morning appointment the other day. He did apologise. The very early appointments are something new the surgery is trying and nobody had told him there were some on Tuesday, so he was happily unclogging his garden shredder before going to work .

That *IS NOT ME,I AM NEVER LATE, UNLESS UNAVOIDABLE CIRCUMSTANCES PREVAIL,*

It's funny how certain professions think it is perfectly acceptable to keep you waiting . I used to think that whenever a doctor kept you waiting it was probably because "he" was in theatre or dealing with some very serious case, until an acquaintance (married to a consultant gynaecologist) told me that the hospital had to send a taxi to pick him up virtually every morning as he couldn't get out of bed and was always late for clinic.

grannyactivist you did the right thing. I do think that some people use lateness in these types of situations as a clear strategy to try to unnerve the people waiting. It also implies a lack of respect. If he was genuinely held up his PA should have contacted you to let you know! That at least would show some level of courtesy! Respect GA

I get a little annoyed when we have cancellations on the tribunal so we ask the last one to come earlier to fill a gap? On several occasions they have said,' no. I'm coming at the arranged time!" Then fail to attend at all[hm]

Well there is no way my group of friends would be sitting on a mini bus waiting for 30 mins when I assume you had paid for said drinks and canapes.A text would have been dispatched telling them to make their own way there . What bad manners!!

Good on you GA. People need to be told.
We have friends who are always late - well she is and he is by default. The final straw was when we had arranged for a mini bus to take a group of friends to a restaurant to celebrate the late Mr. G's birthday and they were 30 minutes late - everyone else sitting on the bus waiting...... Result was we arrived too late for the drinks and canapés and had to welly straight in to the dinner. I was More angry that she never realised her mistake and never apologised. I always arrange things now with at least a 3/4 hour leeway so she is more or less on time!

Good for you!

oh well anno I was only reminding myself the other day don't arrange to meet a man in a public place
With DS2 in shopping centre:
Me: I am meeting someone and will call you when I'm done. If all else fails I WILL be outside Carluccios at 11.
11.20 still outside Carluccios, no response on mobile. He's wandering around in John Lewis where there is no reception. He eventually picked up call when I was stomping off to car park.
And then did the same thing trying to arrange to meet DH in IKEA. Re-run. 15 minutes late - no sign. doh. went home. "where were you?"
there is no phone reception in those big metal boxes.

One of the things (among many) that I abhorred about my ex was his extreme unpunctuality. Many was the time I had to hang around waiting for him on a street corner after a Saturday morning shopping trip when he'd given me the slip. I got wise to this and if I wanted him to be there by midday, I'd tell him 11.30. This was, of course, in the days before mobile phones.

GA Good for you! I would have loved to hear that confrontation.

My DH is always late. Will you come and tell him please! . Its so bad I prefer to go to things alone.

Uh oh - is there something in the water? My student is 15 minutes late for his lesson this morning and I've gone to a bit of trouble to juggle other things in order to fit him in. I have a horrible feeling he's going to be a 'no show'. Aargh!

Very brave grannyactivist!

For a professional person to be late is unacceptable unless they have a good reason. Well done you for saying your piece!

Perhaps it has to be deliberate to count as p.aggressive.

could be bags
I do know some people who are habitually late. Over-optimism about how long things take is a factor for them. Just terrible at estimating how much they will get done and how long it will take to fit all the tasks in. And getting distracted and absorbed in something instead of focussing on getting out of the door. I don't think in these people (i know them so well... as the song goes) they are trying to dominate or show their importance.
It sometimes feels as if they are not thinking about other people though, she muttered, between gritted teeth.

I read somewhere recently, in an article about what constitutes passive aggressive behaviour, that being consistently late for appointments is just that.

Great ga I'm sure some people are late to make themselves feel more important - silly man

Good for you, ga! Such lateness is is inexcusable, and who else, in that place and that situation, would have told him? Atta girl!