One of my friends runs a Chinese restaurant. He works very hard to make a living and often puts in an 18 hour day. His landlord is a solicitor - and in my view is not a good landlord, but obviously has my friend over a barrel when it comes to changes to the lease or work he wants my friend to do on the property. Because my friend is not confident I act as his PA for these appointments and speak on his behalf. The solicitor has been at least 20 minutes late for every single appointment and more usually is 30 minutes late or more. Today, as usual, he was half an hour late for our appointment and when he breezed in and said his usual, "I do apologise", I let rip. I told him that his behaviour was unacceptable, that he was rude and disrespectful and reminded him that he has been late for every appointment he's made and that he obviously believes his time is more valuable than mine. I don't know who among us was the more shocked. There was a waitress in the room who ran to the kitchen, my friend looked on in disbelief (he's very 'authority compliant') and the solicitor was puce - and could do no more than to say in a subdued voice that of course he did not believe his time was more valuable than mine.
I am so rarely angry with an individual that I'm feeling quite discombobulated. I did think afterwards that I should not have berated him so publicly. 
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Oh how I wish I had been there. Bad time keeping is my pet hate in any shape or form, I think it is the ultimate in bad manners. Well done you for putting this so called professional in his place 
grannya 
well done, he wont be late for any furture appointments you have, I would put my hat on it 
Yes, well done, grannyactivist. That'll do him no harm at all. I remember reading somewhere (but of course, can't remember where) that if rebukes are required for public misbehaviour they are most effective when delivered by a woman of a certain maturity, so good for you 
Thanks for sharing your views that IANBU. I think the reasons that I was so angry are twofold; the first being that this particular man has been very cavalier in his treatment of my friend and secondly that being habitually late is very arrogant behaviour and again, I think belittles both my friend and me. I do think that I was correct in naming and shaming his behaviour as rude and disrespectful, but would rather the poor waitress had not been a witness. I think from the point of view of the recipient of my onslaught, the most embarrassing thing is that he must know that his behaviour was rude and disrespectful - and as he is about the same age as me it is most likely very many years since he's been deservedly 'told off' for bad behaviour. 
Bravo and well done
I can not abide rudeness on that scale, being habitually late shows total lack of respect.
I see you are back in fine fettle, ga. That's good
Well done, he was showing his bad manners and nothing less than your wrath would have set him straight. He will think twice before being late and hopefully will be a fairer landlord in the future. He got a verbal clip round the ear.
Punctuality is the politeness of princes. I hate being late so much I even turned up early for my wedding and had to wait until the vicar had finished the previous one
must have got over your cough.... to have the puff. Good.
Great ga I'm sure some people are late to make themselves feel more important - silly man 
Perhaps it has to be deliberate to count as p.aggressive.
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