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To expect to be able to find clothes that fit?

(28 Posts)
nanapug Wed 13-Mar-13 16:27:32

I am so fed up with not being able to find skirts that fit me. The main problem is that I have a waist. I know that sounds crazy but all the plus size clothes seem to be made for apple shaped people. If I find a skirt in my size (not easy) the waist is massive and if I fit my waist the hips are far too tight. Added to this I like long skirts (36") and that makes the odds of finding something just about impossible. Have looked on all the plus sized sites and also Evans, Ann Harvey, M&S, and Monsoon but to no avail. I am now getting desperate as I am going away next week and wany to look nice. Grrrrr....

Movedalot Wed 13-Mar-13 16:36:02

Wish I could help nanapug but I have never had a waist!

My body shape was great when I got down to a size 8 but that was some while ago. I have long legs and a short waist so everything fitted is a no no for me unless I am very thin. I think most of us have one issue or another. sad

Marelli Wed 13-Mar-13 17:28:52

I have a long waist, so nothing with a waist or a belt is any good to me, either. The waist on a dress seems to end up in the middle of my ribcage. confused

Galen Wed 13-Mar-13 17:32:05

I'm just too big and fat!sad

ninathenana Wed 13-Mar-13 17:38:18

You found skirts in Evans !!! Well done you.

I would love to wear trousers but I have short legs and middle age spread grin so have to stick to skirts

nanapug Wed 13-Mar-13 17:45:14

No ninathenana, I didn't actually find skirts in Evans, just hundreds of pairs of black trousers, but like you I can't wear trousers as my thighs are too big.
I think I am like you Galen, just too big and fat! I hate it so much. I would love to be slim and be able to buy beautiful clothes and not have to make do. When you think how may big girls shops there are compared to how many other shops. It doesn't correlate with the number of people over a size 16. I would so love to design smart clothes for large ladies.

numberplease Wed 13-Mar-13 17:52:50

I`m short and fat, but I always manage to find things that I like, and that fit, at Bonmarche, apart from dresses, they`re usually too long from there.

kittylester Wed 13-Mar-13 17:59:28

I think that someone is missing a trick by not designing reasonably priced clothing for all the larger people that inhabit our country. I'm 5'5" size 20 but curvy - the only thing I can wear is separates sad

granjura Wed 13-Mar-13 18:19:57

Why not learn to adjust skirts to fit. Or find a pattern that you can adapt to make your own? Or ... find a tailor/seamstress- once you've got a pattern to fit, made to measure or adapted to measure, it can be used again and again.

My mil made her living making to measure for ladies just like you who couldn't find off-the peg to fit. The first skirt will be expensive- but then it's a doddle.

kittylester Wed 13-Mar-13 19:49:06

Don't have the time granjura or the inclination - life is too short!!

Galen Wed 13-Mar-13 20:00:47

I'm 5 6-7 used to be 5 8. Take size 18 or some times 20. Can be a 16 in a skirt!

granjura Wed 13-Mar-13 20:06:11

kittylester - I understand - but if you really want a skirt that fits well - many of us won't find 'off the peg' - as said, get a seamstress or taylor to do it for you. There is a nice Italian taylor in the shopping centre in Syston.

POGS Wed 13-Mar-13 20:12:30


I have problems too. Very difficult to find an 'Obese Elf Shop' smile

Galen Wed 13-Mar-13 20:27:53

I presume you're not as large as one I saw recently. 5' 3" 27 1/2 stone.

JessM Wed 13-Mar-13 21:25:06

we're talking hourglass aren't we. sounds frustrating.
Have you got a Bravissimo near you? They do some clothes for the voluptuous woman as well as underwear. Mainly tops. But the models in the pictures have busts and waists.

In a bit I will got an rifle through my books upstairs - somewhere I have trinny and susannah on what suits which shapes.... ooops. I seem to have sent them off to Oxfam in recent cull. Wish they were still on TV sad
Why the long skirts? Ever tried palazzo pants? Or leggings with a knee length dress?

JessM Wed 13-Mar-13 21:28:31

The queen is very short with a bust. and expensive corsets I expect.
But, well...
Judi Dench also tiny and tends to look very chic in kind of floaty.

Galen Wed 13-Mar-13 21:37:19

Well the firm of ?pellier etc hold her warrant!

JessM Wed 13-Mar-13 21:37:38

maybe this might help?

Greatnan Wed 13-Mar-13 21:51:35

I always had the same problem - my waist was too small compared to my hips (or, rather, my hips were too big compared to my waist!) So if I bought a size 16 for the waist, it was too tight on the hips, so I got used to buying size 18/20 and taking in the waist bands. I believe the healthy ratio is waist being 70% of hip, so 28' waist and 40' hips is ideal. Now I am a size 14, it doesn't seem as difficult.
Didn't Dawn French head a 'big girl' design company for a while - I think she gave it up. Pity, as people have said, there are more women of 16+ then below in the UK, yet when you look at the 'Plus' section in most stores the clothes are nowhere near as glamarous as the smaller sizes.

york46 Wed 13-Mar-13 21:55:10

Why do clothing manufacturers seem to think that the larger size you take, the taller you are! I am only 5 foot 3 and skirts often sweep the floor on me. In the larger bust sizes, necklines invariably are cut far too big and gaping, leading to an off-the-shoulder number whether required or not!

york46 Wed 13-Mar-13 21:59:56

Greatnan - I do agree about the Plus sizes not being as glamerous as the smaller sizes. I find the fabrics also seem to be not as nice.

Elegran Wed 13-Mar-13 22:37:53

Larger sizes do not work with cheap fabrics, They look creased and scruffy faster than skinny sizes.

nanaej Wed 13-Mar-13 22:42:27

I have to agree clothes size is a nightmare. I am currently a size 18 top but can wear M&S 14 jeans. I am only 5'2". This means dresses are impossible unless I get them tailored to fit or make my own. Also suffer from the off the shoulder look as I really should be 'petite' but to get anything over my boobs means i have excess fabric on the shoulder!! Since an op for gall bladder 4 yrs ago my 'abdomen' where my scar is has become more noticable..not sure if muscles were damaged or if it is old age spread!

I have begun my quest to lose weight so I can hopefully develop a more 'balanced' shape to enable me to buy a dress that fits!

JessM Thu 14-Mar-13 12:49:46

Scaling clothes designs up or down hmm. My DH is not huge. But cannot fit into any M and S t shirts, ever. Because they don't account for the fact that an XL chest comes with bigger shoulders, relatively, than a M chest. A prop forward shaped man is not just a bigger version of a fly half. So the armholes are always too tight.
Leggings anyone?

Elegran Thu 14-Mar-13 13:20:21

I wiegh a lot more than one of my daughters does, in spite of her being about six inches taller than me.

But she has done quite a bit of rock climbing. Hauling herself up sheer cliff faces has given her more muscles and bigger shoulders and she has to buy the same size T-shirts as I do.