Bags I have to say you speak such thoughtful, caring and unbiased comments and considering you say you do not particularly like roadside memorials, you portray a very understanding view point. I stated earlier in this thread about my DS murder and again, I do not find it offensive upsetting or any other feeling when people leave floral tributes, this was done for our DS at the site near the church where he attacked. We just thought how kind it was for people, mostly strangers who had done this and I know they were cleared away when needed. The thing is as Bags said it is an individual thing, some people do it and are not upset by it, such as me and that is ok and then some people such as FlicketyB do not like it and get upset and that is ok to. We are all different and we should be allowed to have diverse views. I think sometimes people do not know what to do or perhaps do not know where the relatives live, so this might be the only way to show some kindness. To some who have said they do not understand why you would want to go to the scene of a fatality, I can only say, we had to. I needed to see exactly where my DS spent his final moments of his shortened life and yes it was and is the worse thing you can ever go through and I cannot put in to words what I felt, imagining what my DS went through and the guilt that any parent goes through when you feel you should have been there to protect your child. But, you see, those are my feelings, but I can totally understand someone else having different views and so they should. I am sorry that I have veered off course because the OP was, I suppose about fatalities on the road. I just wanted to possibly explain an alternative side and view. I have to say, I just love the fact that we are on GN such a diverse lot and have such varying views. I say, as long as it doesn't get personal keep it up girls.[and boys.]