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Roadside memorial bouquets

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NfkDumpling Thu 11-Apr-13 19:56:45

Nasty bend on the coast road and must have been another fatality as a lovely old oak tree is festooned with coloured cellophane. There's probably flowers hidden somewhere in there, but all that's visible is the wrapping.

If people go to the trouble of buying flowers to mourn the loss of a loved one - why can't they take the b****y wrapping off? Is it so no one knows they've been cheapskates and only got a petrol station bunch? And in a few weeks time when the contents have long disintegrated, the b****y cellophane is still hanging there.

It makes me really, really annoyed. Is it me?

dorsetpennt Fri 07-Jun-13 09:47:23

Good grief, I don't know about a naughty step or slapped wrists but all this nasty snipping etc on what could be an interesting post. Every time I leave GN for a week in the hopes that people will stop being horrible, I see something like this. I'm off!!!

j08 Fri 07-Jun-13 09:51:14

You must admit the thread's been going on for some time now. It's a bit done to death. (No pun intended)

j08 Fri 07-Jun-13 09:52:47

I wonder if HQ have got a little bell on their off-duty computer that rings when someone posts something naughty late at night.

I hope I didn't get Geraldine or Cari out of bed.

annodomini Fri 07-Jun-13 10:37:59

Interesting how very far this thread has strayed from the OP. I suggest that it should be laid to rest, without roadside flowers.

Greatnan Fri 07-Jun-13 11:55:47

May I just make it clear that I do not send aggressive pms to anybody. I think Aka could have asked for clarification in a less demanding way and I would have been happy to apologise for my failure to analyse every word in my post.

Elegran Fri 07-Jun-13 12:05:15

If someone thinks that they have had an aggressive pm, then the best way to deal with it is to publish it in full on the thread. Then there is no ambiguity about what has been said, and no chance of veiled but unspecified accusations poisoning the atmosphere.

If the pm is indeed aggressive and bullying, then the whole of Gransnet will join in condemning it. If it is not, the sender will not be tarred with vague suspicions. There was a spate of nasty pms a little while ago, which led to peopleleaving, some of them because they were so hurt, some because they were asked to go. Please don't let the forum get into all that again.

NfkDumpling Fri 07-Jun-13 13:26:39

I think it best to always assume the was no harm intended when abrupt remarks appear. We're all different with different ways and opinions, but I think basically nice people. It's just some are more forthright than others.

j08 Fri 07-Jun-13 13:29:28

When I said about "upsetting her ladyship" that was not referring to aka. Just thought I should make that clear. And I don't send nasty pm' s. Ever.

And if one was sent to me, I would put it online where it belongs - in sight of the moderators.

NfkDumpling Fri 07-Jun-13 13:29:57

And this has nothing to do with people hiding their roadside tribute flowers in too much wrapping

Galen Fri 07-Jun-13 13:32:31

How about wrapping up this thread?

annodomini Fri 07-Jun-13 13:45:06

As I said, Galen at 10.57. Great minds... wink

Greatnan Fri 07-Jun-13 14:06:09

I think we can guess to whom you were referring , jingle - the usual target? grin
I won't be posting on this thread again - unless I am forced to defend myself.

j08 Fri 07-Jun-13 14:08:00

grin (sorry) wink

j08 Fri 07-Jun-13 14:25:59

just tell me why Aka's a panda please [appealling face]

Greatnan Fri 07-Jun-13 14:51:58

Sorry, Ma'am........smile

j08 Fri 07-Jun-13 15:22:45

shock!

Meanie! wink

Nonu Fri 07-Jun-13 16:05:32

Nfk Some, and the strange thing is they are a lovely orangey colour , but just so adorable.

Jo , saucebox !! wink

Off to Livingston soon , then starting our curve into Wyoming , on the way round to Colarado

Galen Fri 07-Jun-13 16:12:49

That took some understanding but I finally gathered you meant baby bison?

Nonu Fri 07-Jun-13 16:15:32

Galen , you may go to the top of the class , probably should have been clearer , but heyho , thats me !!

smile

Galen Fri 07-Jun-13 16:36:32

[smirk]

Aka Fri 07-Jun-13 16:52:39

It's all to do with ambiguity in language JO albeit this was not about punctuation.

why I'm a panda

NfkDumpling Fri 07-Jun-13 17:05:09

Nonu Agree they are soooo cute. A few years ago we did a circuit from Grand Canyon, Arches, Rocky Mountain, Yellowstone and lots on between. Wonderful! Enjoy!

NfkDumpling Fri 07-Jun-13 17:06:33

Aka I'm thick, please make allowances and explain further.

annodomini Fri 07-Jun-13 17:09:16

I thought it meant you were an endangered species.wink

Galen Fri 07-Jun-13 17:37:21

That's a dodo?