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to think the girls were inappropriately dressed?

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glammanana Mon 10-Jun-13 09:31:51

It shouldn't make a differance really but it does cause me concern as my DGD (14) wears shorts but she wears black tights underneath hmm she does however not wear the make-up you see so many with,I can remember wearing hot pant's and mini's with white boot's and panstick with pale lipstick and black eyeliner so my mum must have had the same misgivings as DD and I have.As long as she stays with her friends when out we tend not to worry knowing the faze will pass.

dorsetpennt Mon 10-Jun-13 09:29:53

My parents were very strict about what I wore but that didn't stop me wearing what I considered fashionable. I always had to 'show myself' before I went out, which I did and passed as fit to go out. Living in the country meant lots of places to change into my outfit and hiding the rest in a hedgerow, putting on loads of black eyeliner and pale pink lipstick and getting my friend to backcomb my hair - she was also doing her quick change. We did all this behind the hedge on edge of a field - our cottage was on a hill behind. What we didn't know was that my father could see what we were doing. He never said a word until years later when I was in my nurse training.

Elegran Mon 10-Jun-13 09:27:31

My mother was an assistant guide leader in about 1930. The older leaders were very strict on make-up etc, and the guides all turned up scrubbed and demure. Then after the session they would repair to the loos to add lipstick and perfume and change from uniform into something more suitable for meeting boys. Mum knew this but did not tell the old biddies.

Nothing changes. The young are desperate to loook older and more sophisticated, their elders would like them to stay young and innocent. The task of parents is to try to slow down the inevitable, and not give in to it too soon.

Lilygran Mon 10-Jun-13 08:50:21

I think there's a difference between what an 18 year old chooses to wear and what younger teenagers wear. There is a line somewhere, I'm sure, beyond which we have the sexualisation of children. But I remember my mother telling me that she left home to meet friends without make-up and with a hat and arrived with lipstick and no hat. In the 1930s! I also remember people in the 50s pinning the shapeless school blouses to the waistband of the shapeless skirts to give them a bit of fit. And rolling the waistbands over so they weren't mid-calf.

Bez Mon 10-Jun-13 07:41:20

My DGD is 20 and she was complaining the other day that she had been unable to buy any new shorts because they were only the size of kickers!

janeainsworth Mon 10-Jun-13 07:20:03

nanaej I do remember that the year I went to university (1967) when I held my arms down, the hem of my skirt was about two inches above the level of my fingers, and about half an inch below my knickers.
The fact that my skirts were tweedy jobs from Marks anbd Spencer probably didn't lessen the disapproval of my parents and other adults, but did I care?
blushgrin

NfkDumpling Mon 10-Jun-13 07:12:17

It shouldn't make a difference what they wear, but it does. Looking and dressing like tarts must inevitably turn some men on. Most wouldn't dream of taking things further - but one might.

harrigran Sun 09-Jun-13 23:29:46

No, YANBU. It is very worrying to see young girls with very little clothing on.

nanaej Sun 09-Jun-13 23:26:07

I have been thinking about this since yesterday. I was waiting for a train at Guildford on Saturday. 3 young girls about 13/14 were on the platform. From their chatter it sounded as though they were bright and articulate youngsters ..they were talking about school, homework, holidays etc. Their accents/speech suggested they were from fairly 'middle class' families. They appeared to be lovely girls and causing no problems at all. My concern was that they were wearing shorts so short & tight they might as well have had just pants on! They had bare midriffs. They were wearing light make up.

I felt uncomfortable for them. I felt they looked like 'jail bait'.

I know women should be free to dress as they like and it should never be an excuse for men/boys to assault. I tried to remember when I was their age..hot-pants/panstick/kohl eyeliner/..did I ever look like that?

AIBU to think they were inappropriately dressed???