I feel like I ruined my gs christening

thank you Celebgran xx

Well done Annie is hard to cope with not being treated well and some comments were unkind I felt wish you well x

lol
No, I havent been online for a few days - too much trouble caused online
I agree with all comments, I am keeping my distance, and yes I have saved the photos to my computer and will print them out but I just wanted to see my GS growing up and can only see that by DIL photos as my son does not take any
Ah Well - C'est La Vie

annie I do hope we haven't upset you?

I'm sorry Annie that you are having all this trouble but I agree with phoenix! It happens! My DS2 married a witch but, fortunately, they split up before having children or I know we would be having all sorts of problems trying to have any presence in their lives. You are probably best just to bide your time and be there for your son for now.

My DDs post photos of their children on FB and I save them to my photos, print them out and show off with them like in the old days.

annie there is something that you are just going to have to accept, whether you like it or not and that is you cannot go back and re-do the christening! so saying that you "can't get over it" is pointless.

You now have to focus on what happens next in order to improve relationships all round.

Now, if the relationship between your son & dil is looking rocky, then I'm afraid that the last thing on either of their minds is going to be you. Step back, see what happens between them, as this may affect how things are managed in the future.

Sorry girl to sound hard, but it's tough love time, so that's what I'm offering you.

Plus some

I agree with most of the other comments. Leave FB alone. Families - because they love each other soon get too deep if there are differences and feelings get hurt.
I have just spent a week in the UK with DD1. We flew together. Before I left DD2 warned me. Mama just don't take offence so easily!

On these pages I often advise peole to stand back and give children space and this time took my own advice. We -DD1 and I had a couple of 'differences' but survived the holiday. If I had been constantly posting on FB we would have split up by now.
You will soon forget the Christening, it was not a crime after all to react to being ignored. At the next Christening you can find an excuse not to go.

Thanks bez so easy! When you know how will now save lots pics! was Dropbox downloaded but too ocomplicated this much easier !

Thanks!

And celebgran - if you can't find a "save" option, then press the on/ off button and the indented button on the iPad simultaneously, and the photo will be stored. (courtesy of DGD1!)

Annie I feel your DH could be more supportive. He sounds a bit like the OG who always assumes I have over-reacted/am over-sensitive. That doesn't help the way you feel at the mo' .
Take the advice of lovely GNs and put it all behind you, hold your head up high, give yourself a treat.

What you do is to tap the photo so it is large and then you just put your finger on the photo for a couple of seconds and a menu comes up and one of the options is 'save photo' and it copies straight to the photo stream. Have a try - easy when you get the hang of it.

Bez how can i do this from f book on my I
Pad please.? I downloaded a photo share thing but not sure !!

Can not really see problem if sings are private .

No one except people you allow can access them. Why would she
Put photos on herself then?

Sorry if misread this but it does seem over the top to treat grandparent this way.

I never share or re-post photos on Facebook but what I do do is to save them to my photo file - this is very easy on an iPad and this is the way I am keeping an album of DH's great GD as we have yet to meet her.

That's right. Lots of parents don't want photos of their kids on FB, including my DS and DIL. It is very difficult as adult friends can put up pictures without asking permission - which, in my opinion, is not good manners.
There is good advice for you here - you are feeling angry and hurt and you need to stop engaging with your son and family for a few weeks while you sort out your feelings.

I do agree with cjel about FB photos of children, also because they are then in the publish domain and who knows...

But, annie56 I do understand your feeling that you must do something to make things better, but I really think it would be best to let things cool for a while. I hope they do.

Annie, I hear how upset you are over all this, but please don't have someone elses childs photos on FB, it is very common for parents not to want this. I'm not sure you dil sounds horrid, just a mum trying to have her little family. You shouldn't be contacting your son about this behind her back. Your dh is right- leave it alone. You are in a lot of pain. you feel justified in what you have done but I can see another side to this and I feel it is up to us grandparents to let our children get on with their lives how they want.
We have no 'rights' to see their children it is a privilege, you could have left your table and been more friendly with her family - why did they have to come to you?

You keep saying you are going to leave it and then you do something else.All your contact seems to make things worse so I would advise that you
Step back and when they are ready they will build a relationship with you

Oh gosh annie56 families!

Facebook can be such fun photos I put on this afternoon of us at beach with our son and family been seen by our friends on holiday in Austria!
however it can eat to upset too.
So sorrynyounhad that upset at gs christening she does not sound nice lady hour sons partner so don't feel was your fault .

Hope it all settles bit over top about asking you delete photos.

Yes my husband says dont bother with FB but its the only way my relatives keep in touch - and yes she is a right cow I'm afraid to say

Bloody Facebook seems to be more trouble than it's worth! Why can't people just phone each other, or if that doesn't seem appropriate, send an ordinary email? Or even a damn letter.

All this putting things out there in the public domain (and yes, I know GN is in the public domain, but in a different sort of way) I think it is often ill advised, not thought through and can cause a lot of trouble.

OK, rant over, and by the way annie56 your DIL sounds like a right cow!

I'm so sorry that you lost those pictures. Perhaps your son could email copies to you.

It's such a difficult position you and your OH find yourself in. You can only sit on the sidelines and support your son when he needs you, as it sounds from what you say, that in time he will have need of you.

This is sooo sad Annie , my heart goes out to you !!

today my DIL demanded I remove photos of my GS from my FB profile as they were her pics and I saved them to my profile - the reason for that is that I dont see him to take any - she wont come here and my son is not allowed to bring GS here so what am I supposed to do?
she said as it was a public profile and Paedo's could get the pics - I did then change the account to private (I am not a dab hand at FB so never realized) still she said delete them to which i said as its no private the pics could stay as was my only chance of pics of my grandson for my other members of family to see who live in other parts of country - my daughter for example
ao DIL decided to report it to FB for copyright etc and they deleted the pics

I dont know how to handle her, I have apologised remained away, changed my FB account and still i cant do right

Annie it sounds like your son is simply beginning to see the light. Very sad, but perhaps inevitable. Don't blame yourself. The fault doesn't lie with you.

Very sorry to hear that your son's relationship with g/f is so rocky. However I do not think your one FB message is enough to cause a serious division. Sadly what you have said about them sounds as if it was all a bit wobbly already and it will take a lot of hard work between them to get re-established. Can be done if that is what they both want.
Best let them alone to sort it out, just listen if your son talks to you but avoid offerng advice or making comments about g/f & her family... remember she is your DGS mum. Hope it works out for the best for your DGS