Grandchild name

My great niece hated the names given to her by her parents and from a very early age announced that she would be known by her initials. Now even her teachers call her MJ!

Is it a Boy Named Sue ....????

Couldn't be worse than that could it?

I had to bite my tongue over what I consider to be the ridiculous name given to my younger grandson. At least that is only the middle name. He can drop it as soon as he wants to. Poor kid.

Can't see anything to point to a wind up.

I think there are other issues involved here are n't there ermintrude? Bit of envy of "her" parents. Understandable. Often happens with mothers of the dad.

I can sympathise fully about the name. If it really is that bad then the poor child will be saddled with it, which seems cruel. Is there a middle name? Or he could change it very easily when he is older. Can't see anything that you can do though if the deed is do ne and the name registered. It might not work out as badly as you think. Try to avoid a family rift at all costs.

With you there, merlotgran - (or just ignore).

I know we're not supposed to talk about other threads but......on another thread we are roundly criticising a blogger for wingeing which shows we're not a gullible group of pushovers.

I think sometimes we have to remember that in real life there are people we would cross the road to avoid.

Galen Your certainty about his masculinity suggests you tested it.

Seems to me that the money is the issue here; not the childs name.
And how can you say that you pity the child because of a name.

My late brother-in-law's name was Ivie. He was anything but effeminate - in fact he was a big strapping 6'2" policeman. His name never bothered him - he was called after his uncle and great-uncle, apparently.

Definitely a wind up.

DD has a very odd (to my mind) name in mind if she is fortunate enough to have a daughter. Unfortunately my face gives away my feelings too easily and she knows I am less than keen on her choice. I honestly believe it is none of my business and if I'm lucky enough to have a granddaughter I'm sure I will be so delighted that her name will be immaterial to me. And I have already thought of lots of pet names that can be derived from DD's choice

The very dishy hulk who was the pe instructor on my last cruise. Was called Niccola! He was an ex international Milan player. No doubting his masculinity.

My only grandchild has a lovely traditional name, but whatever the parents had chosen I wouldn't have considered it my business. I would have kept my thoughts to myself. I have friends whose grandchildren have been given some odd (in my opinion of course) names lately. My friends have been slightly embarrassed to tell people but don't consider it their business. I know several people who work in schools and to be honest I don't think any name will cause problems these days.

I'm sorry Ermintrude, but I'm with everyone else on this. It is their baby, and they can call it whatever they want to. Unfortunately the people who are losing here are you and the baby; you are missing seeing a beautiful child growing up, and the baby is missing the love and fun a child gets from a grandmother.

My daughter has two children, both of whose names are unusual, but we realised very early on that they are their children, not ours, Maybe our daughter didn't think much of the names we chose for our children (her and her brother), but we chose them because they were our children to name, and she and her husband chose the names of their children for the same reason.

Please don't deny yourself and the baby the chance of a wonderful grandmother/grandchild relationship just because you don't like the baby's name.

I can understand why anyone would not want to put their grandchild's name on an Internet forum, especially if it s very distinctive!

W?hat actually is the name ? Ermintrude ?

Maybe a wind up. I don't know why the name isn't mentioned. I don't think the wrath of gransnet has come down. The OP asked if she was being unreasonable and most people have just said that they think she is. Also pointing out that that it really isn't worth loosing out on seeing her DGS and forming a good relationship just because of his name.

Why ask the opinion of a forum if you don't want to hear those opinions?

With you there Backagain, quite probably a wind-up. I was hit, myself, by the Wrath of Gransnet some years ago and have only just begun to dip my toes back in the water.

Shirley Crabtree? I think there are so many weird original names around now, the chances of any name causing a child any trouble must be much less than when we were young! And I can see why parents want to give their unique new baby a name no-one else will have.

I vote for a wind-up. I can understand a grandmother being amazed and disappointed by their grandchild's name (my MiL would have liked DD1 to have the name she had chosen for the daughter she herself never had) but I don't believe any mother would fall out bigtime over it.

I am sorry, Ermintrude if the post is genuine, but if so, I think you need to untie the apron strings you would like attached to your son - and your grandson will make his own mind up about his name pretty soon.

As for the money - did you mention when they spoke about further improvements that they had not yet paid you back for the loan? That was the ideal time to raise the subject.

Mmmm I have been wondering if this is a little wind-up but imagine poor Ermintrude's feelings if it isn't. We all have our oddities. I was shot down myself on my first (very lighthearted) post - long time ago now and in a different incarnation but it was really hurtful. Perhaps the benefit of the doubt?

It feels to me as if the name of the baby is sort of a last straw for you, ermintrude? If so, that is awful, and you must feel upset, as you so obviously are.

But, and it's a big "but", I don't think anything is worth losing out on knowing a grandchild. I was with my SiL when he rang his parents to tell them of his son's birth, and all he got was a rant about the baby's name. He wouldn't speak to them for years. So do think carefully, please, for everyone's sake.

Emintrude are you Peaches Gelfdof's mother-in-law? I believe she has named her new baby BOY Phaedra, definitely a feminine name, well it was in Greek mythology, her older boy is called Astala which ending in a also has a feminine ring about it. Allegedly her dad, Bob, has had problems getting his head around these names. Strange for a man who agreed to call his girls Fifi Trixie Belle, Peaches and Pixie. It seems, in his case anyway, what goes around comes around! Wonder if these boys will adopt David Bowie's sons approach, I believe he started life as Zowie Bowie and is now known as Duncan Jones! Emintrude, it's possible that your grandchild may change his name himself if he doesn't like it.