I think the issue about relatives and informing them in such a situation is quite fraught. I would never want absentdaughter to be put in the position of deciding about my fate. Any decision should be mine and mine alone – apart from the fact that physicians and surgeons have the final say about discontinuing treatment and DNR, I think. I think it should also be my decision about what and when absentdaughter would be told and the telling should be mine to begin with even if she then wishes to talk and listen to the consultant concerned.
I think it is deeply patronising to "protect" someone who is dying from full information about their condition and any suggested treatment or care.
Obviously, in the case of dementia or other conditions that prevent the patient from understanding – or even hearing – what they are being told, the situation is rather different.
Looking at some of the accounts of dying relatives here, it seems that some doctors have still not acquired what used to be called a "bedside manner" – especially important with very seriously ill or dying patients. Is it because they feel that they are failing as doctors because they cannot stop someone from dying or is it more dismissive than that?
To think that London, or anywhere else for that matter, does not belong to any one demographic
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