To expect personal messages not to be offensive

Delusions of self-importance, Bananas.

There is the other side too though - people posting veiled (or not-so-veiled) remarks about some members clearly having the ear of HQ more than others. What it boils down to is that people are all different, some are nasty, some are wonderful, some like to think they rule the world, others complain that they being trampled by everyone else and the world is agin them. Just like the real world.

That reminds me of someone who posted on a fun thread recently (I think it was one of the quotation ones) that we should all stop wasting our time on here and make contact with real people. I think in the last few weeks we have seen the wide outside contacts of Gransnet members and their wealth of real live care and feelings when one of our number is in danger.

Took the words right out of my mouth phoenix So, it wasn't either of us - unless that's a double bluff.

I'm amazed that anyone would send a vitriolic pm, if I had a disagreement on a forum I wouldn't bother continuing an argument via a pm, it's kind of futile arguing with someone you haven't met or don't really know. We are all entitled to feel differently about certain issues. It's unbelievable that anyone on GN would feel that they have any more influence than any other member.

Must confess, I'm now itching to know who it was, Anniebach !

I was new here, didn't know about reporting or how to block , have never bothered with PM's, but I did receive some warm greetings from other board members which more than compensated for the warnings and demands

I hope that you reported them all, Anniebach

I think I would have blocked her from sending any more after the first, Anniebach. It's very unpleasant to receive such pms from a complete stranger!

Within days of posting here I had nine PM's from the same person , all unpleasant and a warning that she had great influence here

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Not right thread , Deserving !!

Apropos of nothing, Do tumbler drier balls work?

Get rid of GN just send PM's to one another. Bit like sending letters, only that helped the postal service.

Nuff said, s"*t happens. All kissed better now. Lets move on.

Nonnie I think quite a few of us got nasty pms from that particular ex member, and GNHQ were most certainly informed!

Yes well nonnie - as i said there this can happen and GN need to know, because that kind of thing can really upset some people and it needs to be nipped in the bud.

I take it you meant 'old biddy', Nonnie!

You're absolutely right, phoenix. PMs should be between supportive and/or like-minded members, not used to cause trouble or offence.

Which is as it should be, Nonnie

I had a very nasty pm from someone who is no longer a member. One of the things she accused me of was bring 'only a housewife in poor health' I still wonder what on earth she meant, what is a housewife these days and why did she think I was one and she was not? Poor health, not me, fit as a fiddle mostly with the odd thing wrong which gets dealt with. She finished by saying she had blocked me thereby giving me no right if reply! I shrugged it off as the rantings of a lonely old buddy and forgot about it until I read this thread.

All other pms I have had have been from lovely helpful people.

Bags the reason I didn't ask on the thread itself, was because I regarded it as private, that is that if Flowers daughter was indeed a member, either party might not have wanted it in the public domain, hence the PM (which I have posted in full somewhere up there^^^)

I do hope this makes sense?

Aaaaanyway, move along, there's nothing to see here...........

Phoned said daughter to tell her of my faux pas, she just said 'Oh Mum!!!'

And she isn't a member but is thrilled that there is another Danger somewhere in the world.

FYO Phoenix and I are having Christmas Lunch together

I was under the impression I was a founder member I should be entitiled to honorary membership at the very least!!

I'm coming with you Tegan - I could maybe give lessons!!

I must find out more about the Bad Housekeeping Institute . If ever there was something I should be a member of it's that!

If two lovely people like phoenix and Flower can get a case of 'wire crossing' on here it just goes to show how easily it can happen on forums, and how incredibly hurt one can get by misjudging something. Unlike a 'normal' conversation we can't immediately reply or expand on what we mean so it makes more sense.