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Shall I wait or tell my Mum?

(43 Posts)
Gambit23 Sat 08-Feb-14 12:03:58


I need some advice from Grans. I'm 6 weeks pregnant and had originally planned to tell my mum after I had my 12 week scan and knew all was well. However I've now had to tell a friend my news because I was staying with her and my insisting on decaf tea, refusing alcohol and soft cheese etc made her suspicious.

I feel bad that someone already knows and my mum doesn't.

From a gran (or gran-to-be) point of view would you rather know as soon as possible or after the scan? I think she will worry about me so waiting until the scan might avoid that stress. But I feel a bit like I'm betraying her by not telling her straight away.

What do you think? Thanks

soop Fri 14-Mar-14 16:02:34

Gambit - I'm waiting...wink

babyjack Thu 13-Mar-14 21:15:42

Yes I agree, tell her at once, it changes her life to in such a magical way so she will be able to enjoy it as soon as possible!

yogagran Mon 24-Feb-14 16:36:07

Gambit - we'd love an update please smile

Pauline65 Sat 15-Feb-14 15:21:28

Tell her straight away. she will be disappointed if you haven't told her and someone already knows. why wait. if something happened before the 12 week scan you would let her know I assume rather than keep it a secret. she will probably be absolutely thrilled. go for it. wink

lucyinthesky Mon 10-Feb-14 12:16:57

Please just TELL HER and congrats to you too. Hope all goes well but your Mum should be there to enjoy the journey as soon as you know.

Iam64 Mon 10-Feb-14 09:01:34

Congratulations Gambit - to you, and your mum x

susieb755 Sun 09-Feb-14 21:14:08

Tell her -if shes anything like me, she already knows !

POGS Sun 09-Feb-14 18:41:12

Flipping heck Gambit I was looking forward to coming on here and see you say you had a good old hug and shared a little tear of joy.


Rowantree Sun 09-Feb-14 17:53:21

Go for it, Gambit - bet she'll be over the proverbial moon!

Aka Sun 09-Feb-14 12:14:59

Me too. Feedback please when to tell her!

soop Sun 09-Feb-14 11:56:31

Drat! Was hoping to hear all about her reaction. grin

Gambit23 Sun 09-Feb-14 11:46:08

Was all set to go - and found out she's gone away for a long weekend, back Tuesday! I'll have to wait, I'd rather do it in person. I'm very excited now that you've all persuaded me it's the best thing to do.

whenim64 Sat 08-Feb-14 19:33:54

Oh, Manacaz! If any of us hear good news today, we'll be thinking it's us! grin

bikergran Sat 08-Feb-14 18:58:28

only just read the thread and yes would have said go and tell your mum smile don't wait smile

MamaCaz Sat 08-Feb-14 18:54:16

I hope that in the meantime mum hasn't read this on gransnet and put 2 & 2 together and realised that we all knew before her!

Rowantree Sat 08-Feb-14 18:50:00

I agree with everyone here -tell her! And keep us posted smile x

Ana Sat 08-Feb-14 18:46:40

Gambit's already said she intends to! She posted as much at 1300 hrs...

MamaCaz Sat 08-Feb-14 18:43:29

Tell her now!

Dragonfly1 Sat 08-Feb-14 17:54:45

Hi Gambit, don't worry about not worrying your mum till you've had your first scan - if she's a worrier she'll worry till the little one arrives! Congratulations, hope all goes well!

Nelliemoser Sat 08-Feb-14 17:23:25

My daughter told me and her mum in law when she was eight weeks but did not go public until she had the scan and then posted on Facebook.

Mishap Sat 08-Feb-14 16:51:59

Congratulations - tell her NOW!

The only reason for hanging fire till the scan is to take account of the remote possibility that the pregnancy might not stick - and if, by some sad mischance, it does not, then Mum will be there by your side to comfort you, having shared the initial excitement.

I am sure that all will be fine.

I knew when all my DDs were pregnant - except one of them, who I had not expected to have children, so that was a bit of a shocker - but lovely!

Lona Sat 08-Feb-14 15:26:07

Congratulations Gambit, I'm sure your mum will be thrilled flowers

D0LLIE Sat 08-Feb-14 15:13:27

I wouldnt worry about it gambit your mum will be thrilled to bits when she hears the news...

My son and his wife are expecting their first child and i wasnt the first to know and it didnt bother me one bit.

rockgran Sat 08-Feb-14 14:59:55

My dil hesitated to tell anyone too early as she had had a miscarriage earlier but I knew! Not drinking wine at Christmas was a big give away! (six years ago). I would have been very sad if I had not been told at least second - after her mum. You can't have too much good news. flowerssmile

annodomini Sat 08-Feb-14 14:41:59

I agree and so it looks as if we are unanimous. I have no daughters, but have been included in the good news just as soon as my DiLs' mums.