Being photographed - good or bad?

How can you be the most un-photogenic person in the world henetha when I am?

Seriously I hate my photo taken, always have (even as a child). I find it extremely difficult to smile on cue and run a mile when anyone produces a camera. So in answer to the original post, I do not think you were being unreasonable poppydee I would have felt exactly the same.

You can't be henetha, that's my title

As the most un-photogenic person in the world, I strongly object to having my photo taken, with or without my knowledge! So I sympathise, Poppydee.

Not at all unreasonable. I would have done the same.

Aka, yes they usually say 'oh, but it's lovely' when I say Delete it now!

Back in 1986, at our daughter`s wedding reception, the man doing the video went round the tables filming people eating. We quite enjoyed seeing it, but a few folk did object to being filmed whilst they were eating, and I suppose they did have a point, but it was too late after the event.

Me too M74 but it's worse when they think it's a good one of me....really? So what does a dreadful one look like?

If it had been a really brilliant photograph, would you have been so indignant, poppydee?

Of course, we may all feel differently if we were very attractive and glamorous? As it is, I always come out on photo's looking like a very startled tortoise.

I don't look good in photographs and am always horrified when DC or DIL put them on Facebook.

I think you had every right to be upset. I would have been. They won't do it again.

I sympathise with the OP.
It prompted me to reflect on Facebook for example. We're all out there in photographs we'd no idea were being taken. We had a few big family celebrations last year, attended by our adult children, and many of their friends. The young people photographed and videoed happily on their mobile phones. The days have been catalogued so well, and with so much affection that I feel lucky. The other side of course, is the issue of privacy and being asked whether we want to be photographed and then have the photograph displayed, either in the way the OP experienced, or out there in cyber space.

I've always felt our images are our property and no one has the right to photograph us, much less display the result, without permission. Over the years I've discovered I'm in the minority and photographers think the public are fair game. This situation is even more intrusive and I would be very cross!

...but not a lot for the bald patch!

Absolutely not unreasonable to be pee-ed off. Standing above your subject is a good wheeze when photographing older people - does wonders for the jawline.

I agree with everyone, now we are older we need a bit of notice if anyone wants a photo!I don't know why anyone would have done what they did to you, could they have forgotten it was there?

I don't think you're being unreasonable - most people are quite sensitive about having their photo made public. When I am putting together holiday photos which show friends I try to remove any unflattering ones. However, my son put a horrid photo of me and the other grandma on facebook once - studying our ipads in grim concentration. I could see the funny side but wish he had also included a more flattering one to balance it out. He didn't (the swine).

I thought this was going to be about whether we enjoy having our photos taken or even whether they are any good after - the answer to both questions would be no!!

I think you should have been asked and given a chance to look at the photograph first poppy

Oh dear, I bet you were popular! It does sound as though you overreacted a bit, although I know what you mean about 'personal space'. I think you should have attempted to laugh it off, then perhaps have had a quiet word with the other member involved asking that it doesn't happen again.