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I feel disappointed

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seasider Sat 15-Mar-14 20:40:45

The daughter of good friends has,a significant birthday today. We have known her since she was little and her and her husband and parents have been to all our family weddings,christenings and birthdays etc. I asked what she was doing for her birthday and was told probably just a meal with her friends because they are moving house and skint. I sent birthday wishes this morning and put a card and vouchers through the door because they were out. I spoke to her parents about something else this evening and they confirmed they were going for a meal with daughter and a group of her friends. They also said two of their friends were going. No problem with that but then they went on to mention two other couples who had been asked but declined for various reasons. Am I right to feel disappointed we were not invited? To make it worse they are going to a restaurant owned by a close member of my family where they will be well looked after!

Nonu Sat 15-Mar-14 20:49:34

I think I would feel just as you do sea, rather disappointed and a bit sad !

Ana Sat 15-Mar-14 20:55:55

So would I. You're not being unreasonable at all in feeling as you do, seasider - I can't help wondering at the parents' obvious insensitivity!

bikergran Sat 15-Mar-14 21:03:36

Yes I would also feel disappointed and hurt! hmm

Soutra Sat 15-Mar-14 21:07:29

I am not sure how close the relationship has to be, to be included. To feel sad is understandable, but that too often way madness lies.You could always have booked a table for yourselves and waved cheerily, even offered them a drink?

Soutra Sat 15-Mar-14 21:08:37

"That way, too often madness lies" - can't get my words in the right order tonight it seems. blush

Nonu Sat 15-Mar-14 21:12:09


Mishap Sat 15-Mar-14 22:05:54

So sorry that you are feeling left out, and, as they are such close family friends, I can quite see why you are disappointed. Try not to take it to heart. Maybe she sees you as being more friends of her parents, however much she likes you. The only option is to rise above it!

seasider Sat 15-Mar-14 22:44:52

Thanks everybody . We are out with the parents next weekend so maybe they thought we would not want to go particularly as they are all big drinkers
and it would have been an expensive evening. I will try not to dwell on it as we have been friends for years. smile

Deedaa Sat 15-Mar-14 23:16:42

If they hadn't mentioned their plans for this evening previously perhaps they didn't consider it a big deal and weren't expecting you to be upset about it. They may have just seen it as a night out with a few friends rather than a big celebration.

seasider Sat 15-Mar-14 23:25:26

Yes Deeda when I asked last week nothing was arranged. They are all.moving house this week in a sort of house swap so I think the birthday has taken a back seat.