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I 'Vant' to be Alone

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juneh Mon 17-Mar-14 10:07:57

I am in the process of separating from my husband we are both 70 years old and squabbling over who gets what from the household contents. We have been together for almost 9 years a second go at it for both of us but it hasn't worked out for me, sadly. It was good at first when we were having lots of holidays together, and spending our money but I have 2 little granddaughters who live down south a 7 hour journey by car and want to spend more time with them but he has taken against my daughter and refuses to stay with them and has said when they next come here to us he will go away for the duration. He has pushed me to make a choice and I have but not without great upset and anguish.
There is no turning back now and I am going to live near my daughter and children which is what they are looking forward to otherwise I wouldn't imping on them.
I am an active 70 year old and will make a life for myself but still feel very disappointed that the marriage has failed. My first marriage up to his death lasted over 30 years.
I have written a blog as above

JessM Mon 17-Mar-14 11:59:56

Brave choice Juneh

wisewoman Mon 17-Mar-14 12:17:50

Just had a read of some of your blog. You sound like a really interesting lady who will have no problems making a life for yourself closer to your family. It is sad when relationships don't work out and perhaps the lack of a shared history - your daughter and lovely grandaughters -makes it more difficult to establish the kind of loving relationship we all seek. You are a brave lady who has made a wise choice. He was foolish to make you choose! How could you not choose your gorgeous grandchildren? Best wishes and flowers. Will keep checking your blog to see how you are doing. Now I am off to my mindfulness meditation class!!

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 17-Mar-14 19:52:53

I think you have made a good choice. I wish you many happy days with your daughter and granddaughters. sunshine

Grannyknot Mon 17-Mar-14 20:00:35

june interesting blog. Good luck, I've a feeling you've made the right decision in your case.