Is it ever okay to have an affair

No storms, or much rain either where I live, which is annoying as the garden needs it. Some rain this morning, but not enough.As Sunday is supposed to be dry, I may well need to get the hose out [need a new one really though] as this one's a bit on the short side and inclined to be a bit leaky and kinks easily.What do others reccommend?There is a new curly one on the market that springs back neatly itself when not in use, it coils itself into a plant pot [see the shopping channels.] I am tempted!

Short answer is 'No'. If you can't be faithfull at least be honest.

There will be no need for any watering of gardens this weekend if we get the promised storms! Hoses need not be deployed!

I have read recently (forgot what the percentage was)! but it seems that a high percent of over 60s go seeking affairs...

You daft hose obsessed lot!

Hollydaze Youv'e made a good point. If it has gone on for 25 years, why is it now a problem? Has he spoken to her to find out what turned her off sex? Is he the type of man that if you so much as hug him, he's sees it as a green light for sex (I know many women find that off-putting)?

Perhaps he hasn't been meeting her emotional needs either. Some men still seem to feel that having sex is part of a women "wifely duties".

I agree, specki. Perhaps this man's wife was utterly fed-up with his demands and also he may never have made the effort to make her happy in that part of their relationship. Obviously, he's not going to mention that in his letter on that page. He does seem to be concerned that he's a bit 'under-endowed', however.....and that this may let him down at a swingers' session (!) Oh dear, no wonder his wife gave up on him. Not because he was under-endowed, of course - but if he has leanings towards joining swingers' clubs, well......it's a wonder she's still with him at all!

janerowena It isn't very long but it works for me!

It always begs the question..when men claim that their wives arent meeting their needs..were your lovemaking habits effective for HER needs? So many men view sex in a 'wham bam thank you maam' way. No foreplay no loving preambles just instant action turn over go to sleep! What woman after years of washing their smelly socks and putting up with their snoring can suddenly turn into a juicy sex goddess without a lot of tlc! It annoys me that wives dont stand up and demand that their OWN needs be met!

It sounds rather churlish to ask if I could inspect it first.

Lona - what community spirit!

I have one coiled up under the kitchen window, so anyone can use it.

Think DBH has hidden his...

I have to help my OH dangle his out the bathroom window

DH just shoves his to the side of the path until the next time it's needed...

You could roll it up....

and if I do get it out, I find I can never stow it away neatly again.

So glad rain is forecast tomorrow.....would not want to get the....er.......you know what out!

Chance would be a fine thing.

I agree Marelli. As I said, I'm sure watching porn is only adding fuel to the fire.

And welshmist, if you put the hose down, someone might stand on it - making it impossible to use in the future...... !

Perhaps the gentleman's high sex drive has put his wife off? Was he always going on about it? Does he want to do things that make her recoil? There are always two sides to this sort of story, aren't there?
As to whether he should have an affair, well, that depends what the real story is.

Well if you put the hose down, someone else may want to pick it up.

"water someone else's garden just because I've put the hose down." !!!

Love it!

So sad. I don't suppose they would go to counselling, if they haven't been able to face up to it after all this time. Instinctively, I don't think an affair is the answer, but I don't know what is.

(Cynically, I am now waiting for the usual suspects to join in - I mean the peculiarmen who always emerge when sex is mentioned..)