At what point does being friendly morph into condescension and being patronising? I make no excuse for the media who see everything in terms of bad puns and cliches, but am becoming more sensitive to it in others. Being addressed as "ladies" when out for lunch/a drink with female friends can be loaded with condescion as far as I am concerned. It is but a short step to "does (s)he take sugar?' I have also inveighed against attempting to defuse it by playing up to being "daft old dears" and take violent exception to ageist jokes. Humph!!
I've got another 'keen'... Ouch!