To Have Said No

Hollydaze you did absolutely the correct thing. Have some flowers - The guy that owns the business should have one of the washers anyway.

Hollydaze if more mothers behaved like you there would be fewer spoilt brat children thinking the world owes them a living.

I agree with everybody else. It is just too easy to go and "borrow" indefinitely from mum, she will never say no. Wrong, you did exactly the right thing and guilt should not come in to it. If he cannot fix a couple of slates on your roof for free, I am afraid that he can whistle elsewhere for a pressure hose and anything else he fancies borrowing. The worm has turned, to coin a phrase.

Logically speaking, you certainly should not have to apologise.

However, I think I understand where you are coming from. I am just the same.

I think you should control the urge to apologise until it passes.

Its a good job they didn't run out of slates on the roof they were doing, or he may of borrowed some of yours. Don't feel guilty, they should of fixed your roof.

Holly Good for you I say. I suspect that your son will have a little more respect for you and your things hereafter.

Well done you for sticking to your principles! Friend has a business so frirnd csn buy a new one on the business. Whether you would have been as firm if it had been your DS's personal use though is entirely another matter!!

Don't feel guilty and don't apologise! *Ana's right, it is what we do, but that doesn't make it right.

I would make sure that the shed is locked up too, as anyone could help themselves.
He should be feeling bad that he (and his mate) didn't fix your roof.

You are not being unreasonable!

Do not ring him or apologise. Everyone on here agrees you did nothing wrong (in fact he's probably overdue this lesson in life, you've been too kind up until now) and he needs to have a reality check.

You were not being unreasonable, if they needed a washer in a hurry there are plenty of hire companies around who they could get one from. This would be a legitimate business expense which he could put against his tax liability, besides if you had put the washer in the kitchen ready to use then you obviously needed it that day yourself.

I wouldn't have let him have it. I wouldn't feel guilty either.

No way, Holly! We all need to put our foot down every now and again. Hopefully, he'll come back and apologise for taking you for granted.

You were not unreasonable. His friend is in business, a new washer is part of his expenses. As you say, if you thought you would get it back immediately in the same condition as before, then maybe. If they are likely to either wreck it or keep it indefinitely - no way. You are not a free supply depot.

Don't apologise! You're bound to feel guilty (it's what we do!), but it really is his own fault and I expect you're right, he was just expecting to take it without having to ask you first...

No not unreasonable . Friend should buy a new one , it's his business.