I have posted on here before about this type of situation but it reared its head again yesterday and now I'm feeling racked with guilt.
My son came to the house in the morning and couldn't get in (I was in the shower) but I heard the dogs barking so I came down to see who it was. I saw him looking into the kitchen and giving the door a bit of an angry shove.
I opened the door and he was asking where the old pressure washer was. I told him that he said he didn't want it and when I had the skip delivered, he put it in the skip. He hummed and hawed and then asked if he could borrow the new one for work as they were washing down a roof (they are roofers and it's his friend's business - my son works for him) and the business one had just broken (I had put the pressure washer in the kitchen ready to use early in the morning so it wasn't it the shed where it's usually kept - I think that might have been why the door got an angry shove, the washer wasn't in the shed where he could have just taken it and he could see the washer in the kitchen but couldn't get to it).
As my son has a very long history of 'borrowing' things but not ever bringing them back, I said 'no'. He looked miffed. I explained that even if he did bring it back he would bring it back covered in crap off the building site. He still looked miffed. So I reminded him that when I asked him and his friend to fix my roof (it was only a couple of slates missing and a couple of leaks from the guttering) and they said they would - they didn't; I had to hire another firm that cost me a fortune for what was done.
He left feeling like a very unhappy bunny. If he had been responsible and returned my things in the past and if I knew he'd bring it back in the condition he took tit in, I might have said they could borrow it.
Am I being unreasonable and if I'm not, why do I feel so guilty and fighting the urge to phone him and apologise
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