Rant about the Idiot again - sorry!!

If he has not got someone else I will eat my panama.
You are understandably furious with this waste of carbon.
The children are very young and they inevitably will be tired and whingy if out of their normal routine. Take some deep breaths (or go for a brisk walk) and tell yourself they would have been tired and whingy if they had been with dad-of-the year.
But he does not look fair set to be mister reliable who works at maintaining contact with these little ones. Dont know whether this is a pity or not.
But at least your DD is out of the relationship.

Poor you Kitty- so frustrating. Our DD2 also made a terrible choice- and went to live abroad with him and lost everything. But no children- and the fact he stayed abroad when she left him- means at least she could lick her wounds, with support, and make a clean start.

So hard for the young children- and so hard for you to watch the damage. Him being away for 10 wks is the best thing ever, surely, and give you all time to relax and take stock.

and, actually, he has piles!! He he!

Phoenix - I love you - that is exactly what I wanted to say but you say it so much better than I ever could!

Nonu I think you're right about it being good if he's away for a while. Gives them all time to have an undisrupted life for a while.

Phoenix Remind me never to cross you

Very much like my daughter's ex, Kitty. The children take a full day to revert to normal, polite behaviour after they've been staying with him. He makes a point of winding them up and using insulting language about daughter and her family. Confusing for the children, very unfair on them, and rooted in his bitterness that she decided not to live with his anti-social behaviour.

10 weeks away is probably going to do your daughter and children the world of good!

IMO perhaps it ^may be a good thing . if he works away, for 10 weekends on the trot as least that will be the back of him for a wee while.

It is all in all, not a very good situation.

Great pity for the darling children .

Quite sad really !

phoenix, you would have been burnt as a witch not so very long ago!

Rant away, M'dear, just wish I had a magic wand for your DD and your DGC's or the ability to cast a spell afflicting the b&*t#%d with something like pubic lice. Or scabies. Or some really yuk looking skin complaint. Or haemorrhoids. Or all of the above, plus really dreadful body odour and something that made him dribble from every orifice.

Simultaneously.

How very difficult when our children choose the wrong partner - what a mess for you. Vent away - I can feel the steam coming out of your ears!