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Rant about the Idiot again - sorry!!

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kittylester Mon 28-Jul-14 19:32:21

I just need to get this off my chest before I explode. No-one needs to post an answer - I won't be offended, but I REALLY need to vent!!

The Idiot hadn't seen his and DD3's children for 3 weeks up to last Friday night as he was busy, hung over from a stag do and at the wedding. DD has a birthday this week and went down to stay with DD2 for a girly weekend leaving the children with the Idiot. Like some separated fathers do, he does anything for a quiet life - his Mum's, MacDonalds etc.

So they came back this morning and have been horrendous - demanding, whining etc etc. It is so unfair on DD who has days when she really struggles anyway and for them to come back on a whinging high really makes my blood boil! I realise it happens a lot but the children are 30 months and 16 months and can't understand what is going on. And all because he wanted out when she couldn't cope! angryangry

The latest thing he has come up with is that he may need to work away for 10 weekends on the trot!

Sorry all, I feel a lot better for that. As you were!

Mishap Mon 28-Jul-14 19:34:41

How very difficult when our children choose the wrong partner - what a mess for you. Vent away - I can feel the steam coming out of your ears!

Anne58 Mon 28-Jul-14 19:40:15

Rant away, M'dear, just wish I had a magic wand for your DD and your DGC's or the ability to cast a spell afflicting the b&*t#%d with something like pubic lice. Or scabies. Or some really yuk looking skin complaint. Or haemorrhoids. Or all of the above, plus really dreadful body odour and something that made him dribble from every orifice.


annodomini Mon 28-Jul-14 19:46:31

phoenix, you would have been burnt as a witch not so very long ago!

Nonu Mon 28-Jul-14 19:48:46

IMO perhaps it ^may be a good thing . if he works away, for 10 weekends on the trot as least that will be the back of him for a wee while.

It is all in all, not a very good situation.

Great pity for the darling children .

Quite sad really !

whenim64 Mon 28-Jul-14 19:55:58

Very much like my daughter's ex, Kitty. The children take a full day to revert to normal, polite behaviour after they've been staying with him. He makes a point of winding them up and using insulting language about daughter and her family. Confusing for the children, very unfair on them, and rooted in his bitterness that she decided not to live with his anti-social behaviour.

10 weeks away is probably going to do your daughter and children the world of good!

MiniMouse Mon 28-Jul-14 19:58:49

Nonu I think you're right about it being good if he's away for a while. Gives them all time to have an undisrupted life for a while.

Phoenix Remind me never to cross you wink

kittylester Mon 28-Jul-14 20:05:30

Phoenix - I love you - that is exactly what I wanted to say but you say it so much better than I ever could! grin

kittylester Mon 28-Jul-14 20:06:33

and, actually, he has piles!! He he!

granjura Mon 28-Jul-14 20:09:51

Poor you Kitty- so frustrating. Our DD2 also made a terrible choice- and went to live abroad with him and lost everything. But no children- and the fact he stayed abroad when she left him- means at least she could lick her wounds, with support, and make a clean start.

So hard for the young children- and so hard for you to watch the damage. Him being away for 10 wks is the best thing ever, surely, and give you all time to relax and take stock. flowers

JessM Mon 28-Jul-14 20:17:13

If he has not got someone else I will eat my panama.
You are understandably furious with this waste of carbon.
The children are very young and they inevitably will be tired and whingy if out of their normal routine. Take some deep breaths (or go for a brisk walk) and tell yourself they would have been tired and whingy if they had been with dad-of-the year.
But he does not look fair set to be mister reliable who works at maintaining contact with these little ones. Dont know whether this is a pity or not.
But at least your DD is out of the relationship.

Elegran Mon 28-Jul-14 20:27:18

I hope your daughter is keeping a detailed note of all the times he renegs on his promises or makes a cod of his time with the children.

rosequartz Mon 28-Jul-14 20:52:28

They are still babies - MacDonald's ? shock

Just as well he is away for a while, jolly good thing I would say. And he really needs to be told not to bad-mouth his children's mother, they are very vulnerable and will take it all in as they are not old enough to be discerning. What about his mother, or is she just as bad? Do you speak to her, could you ask her to have a word with her prat of a son and ask him not to say nasty things to the children about their mother, whatever he might be thinking. From what you have said, he really is an immature, well words fail me

rosequartz Mon 28-Jul-14 20:54:10

phoenix, may call on your services wink

ninathenana Mon 28-Jul-14 21:05:51

Me too phoenix please.
You have such a way with words grin

kitty about that contract you suggested........... wink

Anne58 Mon 28-Jul-14 22:15:00

Double hubble, toil and trouble,
Make his botty boil and bubble

Make his piles and scrotum itch
Give his eye a nasty twitch

Make his skin erupt and ooze
Make him allergic to all booze

Give him herpes, give him sores
Whenever he goes out of doors

Wish all foul things fall from above,
For hurting you and those you love.

Sorry, I'm clean out of eye of newt.

Nelliemoser Mon 28-Jul-14 22:35:37

Phoenix shock gringringrin

harrigran Mon 28-Jul-14 23:15:49

Good one phoenix grin
A plague of carbuncles upon him kitty.

ninathenana Mon 28-Jul-14 23:17:08

grin LOL thanks phoenix I have forwarded that to DD

mcem Mon 28-Jul-14 23:29:47

Please may I borrow your spell as a gift for DD2's idiot ex. He so deserves it!
Same story -lazy beggar hands them to his mother to be fed OR of course McD's. Takes a full day for behaviour to return to reasonable after visiting. Nasty remarks planted so that they in all innocence will pass them on! The saving grace is that his baleful influenced is curtailed and DD2 is well on the road to recovery.

Purpledaffodil Tue 29-Jul-14 07:06:49

DD's ex lives abroad which is where she met him, damned long haul air travel. He never remembers DGS's birthday or even Christmas. BUT he has recently had a tattoo done of him on his arm. It is a very bad tattoo in which DGS looks rather like a clown. I rather hope it gives him extreme blood poisoning. Come on Phoenix, do your best! grin

Lona Tue 29-Jul-14 07:56:36

I thought my family idiot was a gonner last weekend but he grovelled, and so it's back to the waiting game.
The relationship is doomed, so I can wait, and my dd has just started a great new job, which means she travels around and stays away a lot!

phoenix I shall be learning your ditty to chant under my breath grin

annodomini Tue 29-Jul-14 08:23:02

Wish I'd had that spell when my idiot left me! Mind you, he too already had piles. tbgrin

Mishap Tue 29-Jul-14 08:29:58

*Phoenix" - I see a niche in the market for your new business!!!

NfkDumpling Tue 29-Jul-14 08:47:11

I was thinking that Mishap!