Hi, long time lurker here but hoping someone can give me some advice as my head is in a whirl. Sorry, but this may be long.
7 years ago I moved 300 miles from most of my family to help out my DD whose marriage had broken up, she had 2 DS's then. Since then I have remarried and she has too and now has another DD who is almost 3yo.
My DH and I have helped out as much as we could, taking them on holidays, school runs etc. I have looked after DGD since she was a few weeks old while DD worked, approx 2 days a week from 7am - 6pm, I received no payment (nor expected any), DGD and I have a very strong bond.
DD has fallen out with one of my DS's and they no longer speak to each other. Last week all my family which consists of 2 DS's and another DD and their respective children (7 in all) came to stay nearby so we could have some time together. We had a few days out and I took my DGD with us as DD was working, I also arranged that we should all go out for a meal together. At the meal I wanted a photo of all my family together as we dont have the opportunity very often but DD refused to be in the photo with the brother and his family that dont speak anymore. I said that as she couldn't do this one thing for me, which would have taken seconds, I was not going to be available to look after DGD next week at which she flounced out with a nasty remark and has now cut contact with me and blocked me on facebook.
AIBU to think that after all we have done for her and her family and the money we have saved them in childcare fees it really wouldn't have hurt her to stand in for a family photo for a few seconds with a bit of good grace.
I am now considering selling up here as we have no other friends or family here and moving back to where the rest of my family live, it will break my heart to leave DGD but if we are not allowed to see her then theres no point staying here.
BTW, this is not the first time DD has behaved like this, she is very selfish and entitled and has also stopped her DH's family from having contact with them due to some small so called offence.
If you have got this far then thanks for reading and even if you have no advice it has made me feel better for writing it all down.
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