I know I`m being unreasonable but I cant help it!!

Poor Jane10! Yes, that's pretty much what happens to me. FiL is excellent, why didn't DBH inherit his genes? DD is currently at home with flu and the two GCs all by herself. Been there, done that but I wish all men could be sent on a caring course or something. Some women, too. Because I wouldn't mind doing it at all if only it was reciprocated.

Never mind Jane, it won't be man flu, so you will still be able to do all he normal chores.

Bad luck, Jane10, though probably predictable. I hope you feel better soon. and plenty of .

Guess what? I`ve got it now too!! DH has gone away again. Probably just as well. Maybe we`ll both be better by the weekend. Sure hope so

Is interesting......when I had flu some years ago when we lived in huge farmhouse DH didn't come anywhere near me for 4 days, no tea or sympathy etc because he thought I'd 'rather be alone'! Remember crawling to bathroom because couldn't stand up.......... Very different when he has a cold, makes sure he 'shares' it with me and anyone else daft enough to get close!

I had a knee replacement last Tuesday and DH has been quite good. However he has been doing a bit of decorating and there have been lots of groans and mumblings about backache and tiredness. Just ignoring him, just now my needs are greater than his.

He had to go back to school for an Ofsted inspection. You can imagine how popular being off for a week prior to the first day made him.

I waved him off in the morning, brilliantly concealing my glee and lightness of heart affter a week of hot toddies, tea-cake baking etc. (all with a sprained ankle and swollen knee of my own) only to hear a 'Hi Honey! I'm HOOOOOOME!' at lunchtime.

They had thrown him back again. He put his 'pathetic' face on and they let him off away matches against other schools. Bang went my chance to sit down in front of the tv for the first time in a week and watch something I liked!

I have only just managed to get rid of my own little hypochondriac.

JaneR what have you done with him?

Mine has had flu for the last four weeks, started with severe sweats and then headaches. He sleeps more and snores which gives him a sore throat. Am I allowed to forget it? NO. I know he is not himself but I also had four weeks of not feeling well, dizzy and unbalanced, probably same bug, but had to keep going, cooking, washing, taking dog for walks. He can't take the dog because it's " too cold". GP said its just a bug it will go please hurry up and do so.

Sorry JANER, you can"t have mine, he is a KEEPER.

Laugh !!

I have only just managed to get rid of my own little hypochondriac. I think part of the reason why I find it so hard to feel sympathetic is because I know that I have always had to carry on as normal, regardless of how awful I feel. He is not a helpful person. I had a mother who was very unsympathetic to illness and brought us up to stay in our rooms until we felt well enough to go back to school. Sometimes she even forgot to feed us at lunchtime, let alone keep our rooms warm and check our temperatures. So I know he thinks I am tougher than he is - but I'm not. I just learnt not to moan all the time! He however is only one step away from asking for his mother whenever he is ill. She is just as bad, but has managed to find an OH who pampers to her every whim. I am so jealous. I want one like that.

I don't suppose anyone out there would like to swap?

My sister`s partner was felled by Bird Flu earlier this year. He ended up being flown to Leicester to be put on ECMO. Survival not necessarily expected. However, he did recover. He was youngish and in good health. The sort to sneer at flu jabs. He doesn't now!!

(((Hugs))) Deedaa - that must be really hard.

My DH is properly ill with a serious illness and coping with it very well considering, but I still find the sighing SO ANNOYING! I know the poor thing can't help it and I would be just as bad if it was me but ..................

Mustn't be too rude about Man Flu though, SiL had it last year (we thought) and is still being treated for the serious heart and kidney problems it has left him with. DD will probably never live it down!

FYI, I am an ex-pert --- that is I used to be pert

That was aimed at the "experts".

I think they've changed their minds about that now.

I am sure I have read that the 'cold' is no longer infectious once the symptoms appear...

Leave a cold alone and it will last for a week,treat it and it will be gone in 7days.

Mrs. P may well need your support, I am sniffing away atm, could be the start of the dreaded MF.

I think we all need to send our commiserations to Mrs Pompa (as well as Jane10)

Jane10 Huge lunch eh ? nothing wrong with his tummy then, mind they say you should feed a cold don't they ? Large hot toddy to send him off to sleep and he may feel better when he wakes up.

Jane10, "bad person", yes you Are !!!

Do you not realise just how serious MAN FLU is ???.

No man cab be expected to suffer from this debilitating virus without making everyone elses life a misery, it is one of the side effects.

You should be offering him hot lemon + whiskey, peeled grapes and pandering to his every need. How can he be expected to recover without your 24/7 attention.

It is not much to ask, most cases only last for a week or two provided they are looked after.

But remember that another side effect is that all your care will be forgotten once he recovers, unfortunate, but it is unavoidable.

You are not a bad person just a normal woman faced with one of the trials and tribulations of living with a member of the opposite sex! Hopefully he has attributes that make it all worth while.

DH used to travel a lot and coming home grumpy and ill was only one of the homecomings I faced; grumpy and like a bear with a sore head because the journey home was a nightmare, or the meeting had been difficult. On the other hand on occasions he came home happy and full of glee and we had sudden meals out or other treats.

Prescribe a large hot toddy