To feel sorry for myself?

Hi all, thank you for your lovely messages. They have lifted my spirits and made me feel worthwhile again.

Rosesarered I don't have a DH/partner, I wish I did. I live with my 17 year old son who is wrapped up in himself and still finds time to argue with me even when I'm feeling this bad. That's why I am glad I have my doggie.

grannyactivist Thank you for the link, I have watched it now and it is really funny. I do think as women that we put pressure on ourselves so time to look after myself and worry about Christmas nearer the time. I do like to do it for myself even if the son is being a pain, I deserve a nice time.

nannyfran Well done with stopping smoking over 20 years ago. I am glad that you have stopped and now feel so much better. I looked up what I am going through and found a website called Quitters Flu with all these people who have gone/going through the same thing as I am so feel a bit better about it. Slowly but surely I'll be fine. Thank goodness for internet shopping!

to all.

Rubylady you have my sincere sympathy. I gave up over 20 years ago and it was like losing a dear friend for a while. It does get better and I now think it's one of the best things I ever did.
I hope your cold improves soon, that will make you feel more like doing things to take your mind off it.
Big hugs and good luck.

Rubylady, hope you're feeling a little better today. Take your mind off things for five minutes by watching this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gnvzidUAAcM

Well done for sticking with it - it is difficult but will be worth it in the end.

You need some good comedy shows/films on the TV - a hearty laugh lifts the mood and clears the ancient tar from the chest!

Good luck - keep up the good work.

Get well soon ruby. People are not generally very good around ill relatives [they don't want to catch it.]Your DH/partner should be doing more for you though, don't be afraid to ask him.Giving up smoking is hard, but well done for doing it.

I would advise you to give in to how lousy you feel. Have a good rest, feet up etc.
Then you should be rested enough to be raring to go.

Are your family normally very good at rallying round?

Possibly you are better suffering cold turkey on your own. Just work out how much you've saved not smoking and write down the sum every additional day and treat yourself at the end when you've finally cracked. A chain smoking friend piggy banked the money and paid for a cruise . Just keep busy on the internet.

I'm sure it's very difficult to break any true addiction, and smoking would certainly be one of those. No point in expecting overnight miracles though. That will only disappoint. Having said that, anybody deserves sympathy when they are ill. So rubylady. And chin up.

When we smoke we know it's bad for us, but it's an addiction like other addictions. Good on ruby for finally managing to kick the habit. You can only undertstand how difficult it is if you've been a smoker.

The Marilyn quote might have been alright for Marilyn.

How long were you a smoker for? Six weeks is probably a drop in the ocean compared to your time as a smoker. Did you not hear the "Smoking kills" message any sooner? You will have to be patient now and wait for your body to re-condition.

Hello Rubylady, so sorry you are poorly, hope the next few days will see an improvement. Well done giving up the fags though, I understand from others that this can be a difficult time. Yep I think you deserve to feel sorry for yourself, go on give yourself a treat of something nice like a promise to go to the hairdresser or to have a facial. I have also have a bug from hell and was prescribed a course of antibiotics today so hope things get a bit better. Know what you mean about wanting to get Christmas preps underway, I have done nothing, and the panic factor is setting in.
Get well soon, from a fellow sufferer.

(((Hugs))) all round for anyone who's feeling under the weather/neglected or just out of sorts. Here, have some too.

Whatever you do ruby do not go back to smoking. I'm saying this because the time in my life when I smoked a lot was when my marriage broke up and I was feeling lonely and isolated; cigarettes were 'my friend' [that sounds a bit pathetic but someone on a tv programme about smoking said the same]. Also feeling a bit let down by my family at the moment, so I think we should give ourselves a virtual hug, ruby. Things will get better and you will be on the mend soon.

So many threads atm all on a similar theme. I'm sure these dark grey days are the reason many of us either feel down or cannot shake off illness. As I have just said on another thread, the first signs of spring are not too far away, once Xmas is over it will not be long before we see the first snowdrops and can look forward to spring.

Hey ruby - sorry to read you're feeling so poorly and fed up. I had a similar bug and 5 weeks on, I'm still a bit tight chested, still coughing at times. Look after yourself. My GP recommended I take vitamin C and Zinc, because the research confirms it aids the immune system. I get mine in the form of one tablet a day, Boots own make. Mind you, still coughing 5 weeks on, am I a good advert! I did do a 10 mile walk at the weekend though, so can't be that bad an ad.

ruby Sorry to hear you're feeling so poorly and neglected at the moment. If you are quite resourceful most of the time, others don't always realise that you still need a comforting word and a bit of help sometimes.

Congratulations on giving up smoking. It doesn't seem like it now, but I'm sure you will eventually feel the benefit.

I hope you soon feel much better.

Well done on giving up smoking. I too have heard that you get ill after giving up but it is so worth it, keep going.

Families are sometimes so busy with their own lives they don't respond as we would like and maybe think 'its only a cold' so get on and spoil yourself instead. I was miffed recently that none of mine asked how I got on with a hospital appointment but all asked about Mr N's! After some thought I decided that they all know I am a coper but that Himself needs lots of attention so told myself they didn't feel the need to fuss around me. Tell yourself the same thing!

Like vampirequeen I was told that it's all the nasty gunk and tar clearing from your lungs and the rotten half dead feeling is withdrawal symptoms - so try to think of it as a good cold - it shows your lungs are getting healthier!

It will get better soon!

Ruby I hope today brings an improvement for you, and I do know all about family not responding. I try to be charitable and say they do not fully understand instead of the probable reality which is that they put themselves first. If they took us at our word they would have to do something and not just pretend all is ok.

If it's the same bug I had, it does take a long time to clear up. Feeling isolated doesn't help. But here you have an outlet where can vent your feelings and know that you will be understood. It's fine to be sorry for yourself. I always think that I might as well wallow for a bit in self-pity and give myself little treats - in my case, it's all too easy to go on line and get a new book for my Kindle but at least that's not fattening!

That's horrible hunni. Don't give up on the ciggies though. I was ill for a few weeks after I gave up but it gets better. Don't know if it's an old wife's tail but I was told it's the body clearing out the toxins and the gunge.

So glad you have your dog for company, they are wonderful aren't they? In similar circumstances I try to find ways to spoil myself, things like a glossy mag, a cream cake and a few hours cuddled up on the sofa. Nurture your body so that it can get on with the job of mending itself, keep warm and rested. And keep chatting here for company!

Ruby (chuckle) I assumed you were quoting Marilyn Monroe .

I really hope you turn a corner soon and start reaping the rewards of being a non-smoker (as you will!)