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Daughter over son

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Liza80 Wed 18-Feb-15 21:01:01

Hi my mum thinks I prioritise my daughters over my son I have always bought my daughters expensive vans as school shoes now that my son has started to wear cheap primark plimsolls as school shoes similar to vans my mum thinks my daughters should be in the primark ones aswell because I can't afford to buy my son a pair should they ?

soontobe Wed 18-Feb-15 21:03:52


Liza80 Wed 18-Feb-15 21:04:40

How ?

FarNorth Wed 18-Feb-15 21:12:45

Once their vans wear out, you should be buying shoes of medium cost for all your children, I'd have thought.

Why do you think it's okay to buy expensive shoes for your daughters and cheapo ones for your son?

tanith Wed 18-Feb-15 21:14:51

Why? why don't you just buy them both the same thing? It only seems fair..

soontobe Wed 18-Feb-15 21:15:32


Liza80 Wed 18-Feb-15 21:17:07

Daughters 15 & 14 will refuse primark ones and tell my son 11 he is cool in primark ones and believes them kids are fine with it it's just other parents judge

FarNorth Wed 18-Feb-15 21:20:40

It's up to you to buy him decent shoes, not rubbish ones.

Liza80 Wed 18-Feb-15 21:23:32

I know but I can only spend £3 on his school shoes every term

FarNorth Wed 18-Feb-15 21:25:20

Don't buy vans, then. Your daughters will get used to it.

Deedaa Wed 18-Feb-15 21:31:10

Daughters of 14 and 15 are quite old enough to have your financial situation explained to them and to understand that you can't always afford things that they want. It won't be that many years before they have to do their own budgeting so now would be a good time to start.

Ana Wed 18-Feb-15 21:35:27

Deeda and FarNorth, perhaps you missed this thread:

Liza80 Wed 18-Feb-15 21:44:27

I might get him shoe zine ones for £5 think they could be better

Soutra Wed 18-Feb-15 22:03:13

Does anybody remember a kids' TV programme called "Why don't you?"

Liza, Why don't you go and do something interesting instead?

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 18-Feb-15 22:04:44

Why don't you seek the advice of Mumsnetters?

Soutra Wed 18-Feb-15 22:06:18

Or indeed, anybody. . . . . .

annodomini Wed 18-Feb-15 22:19:04

Please, HQ, would you either delete this thread or combine it with the one on exactly the same subject?

Ana Wed 18-Feb-15 22:29:01

Or delete both of them.

Anne58 Wed 18-Feb-15 22:35:24

Oh ffs! I think I made my own stance clear via a post on your last thread on the subject! Except in that thread it was Shoe Zone that you referred to, now it seems to be Primark!

Please, please either go away or (I can't think what, but I would like you to do it anyway)

Anne58 Wed 18-Feb-15 22:36:42

PS, You are not being unreasonable, just irritating and totally transparent.



absent Thu 19-Feb-15 00:25:24

phoenix Don't be shy. Tell us what you really think.

grannyactivist Thu 19-Feb-15 00:25:59


Anne58 Thu 19-Feb-15 07:53:17

Liza80 is your son Benjamin Button? I only ask because he was 12 on your other thread and now he seems to be 11? [innocent face]

loopylou Thu 19-Feb-15 08:20:00

I'm with phoenix on this

Brendawymms Thu 19-Feb-15 08:51:33

Three cheers for phoenix